would you prefer a biger gurl with ...

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would you prefer a biger gurl with ...
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 5:32pm

would you prefer a biger gurl with great personality or a thin "modle" b1tch



  • biger non perfect gurl
  • anerexitic plastic bitch
  • gurl with noticable flws but great personality


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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 6:10pm

I find the term "anerexitic plastic bitch" to be quite offensive. Anorexia is a terrible disease and not a word to use as an insult.

However, even if you substitute the word "anoerxia" for "slim" the sentence would still be offense because it implies that attractive, slim women are nasty and plastic. In my experience, the weight of a woman has no impact on her personality. Thin women can have fabulous personalities and fat women can be horrible.

If you really want to be successful at dating, first you must learn to accept your own body. Then you must learn to accept the bodies of other women without judging them. No one wants to date a woman who says such nasty things about other women.




Edited 11/17/2004 6:15 pm ET ET by iv_aisha2004
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 6:11pm

I haven't voted at all because it's such a loaded question. I answered your last post.

Look at people that are 40 or 50 years old. How many of them have NEVER been in love with someone? None that I know of.

Sure everyone wants to date a supermodel or a really handsome guy with great abs. Who doesn't? But who does? Not very many people. Everyone eventually finds someone that gives them that dizzy, in love feeling. Someone that accepts them for who they are - faults and all. Someone that still loves you when you say stupid things or they laugh at your dumb jokes, and can put up with your insane Mother and family. Someone that you can catch out the corner of your eye, looking all dopey and like a little in-love puppy at you, when they don't think that you are looking.

It doesn't matter what their body is like when they can make you feel like that. It doesn't matter to them what your body is like when you make them feel like that in return. It's all part of a package. We all want the best for ourselves. We want to find someone with great personality, great abs and a great job and life. But in reality we end up finding someone that has a little bit of everything and that we just 'click' with.

Don't worry so much about your body. Date this guy a few times and enjoy the company. You never know, he may turn out to be someone that you don't really like very much when you get to know him!

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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 9:56pm
uhhh im sry but i was implying that not the dis.....but the people that starve them selves to be thin and the ones that get implants....i know my sister got them and now she looks like CRAP whith her tits sticking out there like a 4~4....and she was ok b 4 .and i dont think n eone is comfortable abou there bodys....plus i got a bf...so i dont worie about it..
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 11:45pm
I think that most guys see beyond body size & shape......and look for a woman with a decent attitude, likes herself, and doesn't use gutter language.
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 11:55pm

The people who starve themselves to be thin are the very people that need your compassion, not your bitchiness. They are neither plastic nor bitches....they are women who are caught up in a terrible cycle of self loathing and illness.

You are entitled to think your sister looks like crap...but how would you feel if she said that about you? Wouldn't it be nicer if you showed acceptance for her choices in life? Even if it's "agree to disagree", it's way nicer than saying she looks like crap.

You don't think that anyone is comfortable about their body? Think again. Some women (myself included) are smart enough to not only love and accept their bodies but be proud of them - despite (or because of) all the imperfections. Don't kid yourself that we're all insecure.

You say that you've got a boyfriend so you don't worry about it (I assume you mean your appearance). That's a load of rubbish. Your other post indicates that you have terrible body issues and that you fear your boyfriend will be turned off by your body. Honestly, don't kid yourself into believing you are any better than the thin women who you despise.

Calling a thin woman a plastic bitch, and criticising her efforts to look good is no more acceptable than calling a large woman a "fat slag" or a "fat pig". Do you think calling someone a "fat slag" is acceptable? If not, I suggest that you show other women the respect that you would like to have shown to you.

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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 4:52am
harsh words... but i totally agree *nod nod*.. the OP displays signs of stereotype & discrimination toward thin women, and also intolerance toward plastic surgery. like iv_aisha, i am comfortable with my body.
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 7:31am

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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 12:31pm
why do thin women have to be plastic bitches? and i'm offened at your post for even putting it like that, thin does not mean anorexic you know. i'm a very slim tiny women but you know what i dont try to be i eat like crazy all day long i just have a high metabalism as does everyone in my family. your probably like alot of girls i remember in high school that would meet me and be like god are you anorexic?? do you relize how offensive that is to people that really arent and just cant help being skinny and how offensive it is to people that really have that problem. not all skinny people are anorexic and certainly not all bitches either. you say your secure but if you were you wouldnt be referring to thin women as anorexic bitches.
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 12:54pm
Your post I'm assuming was meant for the original poster?

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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:15pm
What i meant was i do worrie about thats whats on my mind 24/7

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