Would you "shower" your husband?

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Registered: 06-17-2007
Would you "shower" your husband?
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Sun, 06-17-2007 - 12:32am
I want to know how other people feel about something that has come up in my married sex life. My husband asked me one night if he could "watch" me pee. Not only does he really enjoy watching, but he also really enjoys a warm shower on his chest after we have made love. At first, I was embarrassed, but wanted him to know that I was willing to try anything that made him happy and was hopefull that if I ever had a fantasy that I would like to act out, he would remember that moment and return the favor.
I did as he asked, and he enjoyed it so much that he ask for it almost everytime we make love. I can't say that I'm completely turned on or off by it. I think it is sexy that he is so turned on, but I feel a little embarrassed thinking about it afterward.
What do you think? What would you do if you were in my shoes, or rather in my bed? I enjoy sex with my husband very much. He is a very selfless lover, and always makes me happy. Actually I initiate sex more than he does. Am I trying to make him happy because I love him, or because I want something in return? Should I feel degrated? Should I feel that I've degrated him? Or should I feel happy that my husband and I are so close and enjoy trying new things in the privacy of our home?
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Registered: 02-04-2007
Sun, 06-17-2007 - 1:18am

I'm just curious why you feel the need to see how other people feel about what you and your husband do behind closed doors. It sounds to me that you and your husband have a very loving, healthy sex life and you should embrace that and enjoy it. Some people are into water sports and some are not. Isn't it such a turn on for you to see how excited he gets when you do this?? From your post, it doesn't sound like you are totally turned off. I think it is very important to keep the passion and fire burning in your marriage, so since you asked, in my opinion, I would have fun with it. Hey, what would be his reaction be if you asked him to return the favor??

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 06-17-2007 - 1:36pm

Whatever two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own bedroom, or home, is THEIR business, and why should it matter to you what other people think, unless you really detest doing it? Why should you feel "degraded"? That is a "personal" feeling, if you feel degraded, then you are. If you don't feel degraded, then you're not.

I've never gotten into "golden showers".....but if asked, I might! One thing I would NOT do is do it in/on my bed! A good way to ruin a mattress!

If you're both happy, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or does.

Have you ever ejaculated? That's a pretty "wet" thing....but it's not urine, so it will never smell bad. You might try for that!

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 06-17-2007 - 3:17pm

There is no way you *should* feel.

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Registered: 10-04-2006
Sun, 06-17-2007 - 8:53pm

"Or should I feel happy that my husband and I are so close and enjoy trying new things in the privacy of our home?"

Not saying you should or should not feel a particular way, but this is what would have my vote were my wife and I to find something new that pleased or thrilled either of us.

As others have said, only you can determine and say how you really feel about it. But having read so many peoples' posts on iVillage expressing a desire to experience something new, then being rebuffed by their SO's, and then reading how you readily embrace your husbands' desire, that he had the confidence in you to ask it of you....I applaud you and hope you know just how lucky you and your husband are to have that closeness and willingess.

That is the most precious thing two people in love can possess, in my opinion anyway.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 9:40am

Welcome to the board marriedgal13.

I think there is a unanimous vote here to do what you are comfortable with while in the privacy of your bedroom with your husband. Different people enjoy different kinds of play, and whatever works for them, they should enjoy, IMO.



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Registered: 07-19-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 7:03pm
no way you should feel degraded about this. this is something you both enjoy doing and he likes it. ask him if he wants to try it on you. This is something that is very intimate and you should be happy that you both are open about it and do it. I wish my DW would do it on me. I still cannot bring myself to ask her!
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 7:58pm

Welcome to the board memmbo. Thanks for joining in.



We have a July Roll Call if you would like to sign in and let us get to know you a little better.



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Registered: 05-21-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:20pm

Hi, welcome.

"I wish my DW would do it on me. I still cannot bring myself to ask her!"

What is stopping you from asking her?

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Registered: 07-19-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 9:15pm

misty, thanks for the welcome and I did answer the roll call.

cellar, I am not sure, but since she is a little conservative, I feel reluctant. Moreover may be I am not opening myself up to her fully. In the past my gfs have been pretty experienced and daring to try kinky things and I just played along though I loved every bit of it, but I didnt have to initiate much. like I'd rim someone during oral and the next time Id be getting rimmed crazy. Or I'd be in the shower when the gf just peed infront of me. I have asked a few things but somehow I am afraid DW will just turn me down and not be able to do it forever or for a number of years etc. I guess I am taking it slow to see what really rocks her.