Wrong Name

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Wrong Name
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 1:48pm
My GF and I were having some fun last night using a few new toys we picked up. During this fun time she screamed out the name of a former guy that she had been with. In your own opinion, what do you think this means, should I be worried?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: skeetstar
Fri, 08-11-2006 - 4:58pm
OUCH! Not good. How long have you been together?
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In reply to: skeetstar
Fri, 08-11-2006 - 8:39pm
I think it all depends on how new your relationship is. It could just be habit. You get used to saying someone's name, it becomes automatic. I've come close to accidentally saying an ex's name during new relationship sex and it had nothing to do with my feelings for that ex--I didn't have any. It was a knee-jerk response.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: skeetstar
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 5:52am

I wouldn't get too worried about it. Yeah, it's unfortunate. I bet that she is kicking herself too. I've almost done the same thing even when I've been in a relationship that was 12 months old! The brain sort-of goes on automatic and sometimes it gets a bit muddled.

In a similar but different way, have you ever noticed parents that have more than a couple of kids tend to run through the names before getting the correct name for the kid that they are trying to yell at? They know who they are talking about, just pinning the actual name down when you're fired up can be tricky :-)

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In reply to: skeetstar
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 3:43pm
We have been to gether for two years. The toy was to say, bigger then me. Does that mater
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In reply to: skeetstar
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 6:25pm

>>We have been to gether for two years. The toy was to say, bigger then me.<<

No I don't think that it matters at all. I really think that it's just her brain getting muddled up. These things happen and they are embarrassing and regretable, but I really don't think that you have anything to worry about.

Don't worry about the toy being bigger than you. She had fun with it if she's screaming out names and getting addled in the head during a fit of passion. So it's doing what its designed to do. Just remember that it's not a replacement for you! I'm sure if you asked her whether she'd rather have sex with the toy or with you that she'd quickly point out that she'd want sex with you.

I'm not sure that there is a good analogy for guys but how about this? Do you masturbate to porn? If you do, which would you prefer to have sex with? A playboy magazine or your g/f? Yeah the Playboy can get you turned on but it's no replacement for a real flesh and blood g/f, is it? If your g/f got jealous about a Playboy magazine you'd think she was a bit silly, wouldn't you? After-all, you know that the Playboy is fun but it's nothing that she should be jealous about, right?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: skeetstar
Sat, 08-12-2006 - 7:22pm

Skeetstar, my brother-in-law has been married 4 times. He has made a few mistakes on names, so he decided to always use "honey" instead of her name so he wouldn't embarrass himsef again.

I would not pay any attention to your girl friend's mistake. It was just a subconscious thing. I bet she was embarrassed!!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: skeetstar
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 12:28pm

I think it means absolutely NOTHING, and I think you should forget about it, and NOT worry about it.

We have no control over our subconcious.....sometimes something is triggered in our brain, and we have no idea why.

Leave your insecurities at the bedroom door. They don't belong in the bedroom! (They don't belong ANYWHERE in a relationship, for that matter!)

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Registered: 02-26-2001
In reply to: skeetstar
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 2:46pm
From the minute I read this post I knew that it was only a matter of time before you would find some way to make it the guy's fault.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: skeetstar
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 5:04pm

Who said anything about fault? I said he shouldn't worry about it. AND he shouldn't be insecure about it. GEEZ!!!

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Registered: 07-27-2006
In reply to: skeetstar
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 8:45am
Thank you to everyone for your input.

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