Yelling out, "Harder!"

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Yelling out, "Harder!"
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 8:58am

Okay, I've got a question for the women on this forum.

When you, in the throes of passion, yell out, "Harder! Do me HARDER!" or something like that, what is it that generally motivates you? Is it that you want more depth because you're tenting and need it deeper inside to be satiated? More of an impact on your clitoris? Could it be wanting to raise the animalistic intensity of the whole act? Is it the friction that you need more of?

More to the point, does anyone actually yell out, "DEEPER! I want you DEEPER!"?

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:43am

Absolutely!

I often yell out harder or faster, and yes, I do actually want it harder. It makes my man super excited too, so sometimes I say it just to get him going ;) It hurts sometimes, but it's not extreme so the little bit of hurt makes my pleasure that much more intense!

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:44am
Well Muttley, I don't think the answer your seeking is quite so cut and dry. What the need for "Harder" means would vary depending on postion. If I am on top and want "harder" (which i prefer F Me or Don't Stop) it would be for depth or friction depending if I am sitting straight up or leaning forward. See lots of variables? Have you asked the person your with what it is they want when they say "Harder"?
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 10:23am

I don't typically yell out "harder" or "deeper." I will usually meet his thrusts more aggressively with my own or I will grab his butt which signals to him to grind or thrust harder, not necessarily deeper though.

For me, it's just the progression of the excitement of the act...just as it is for a man. You tend to speed up and become more urgent in your rush toward orgasm.

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 11:48am
I tend to like my sex gentle rather than hard, but I have been known to nestle against my lover and whisper in his ear, "More, More." Elaine
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 11:59am
Increase the pressure,, frinction, animalistic intentsity, and yes I do yell out, "F*** me harder" or deeper or both lol.
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 2:50am

First off, I don't 'yell' during sex, it's more of an elongated plea. LOL!

"harder" for me means that I'm enjoying it but I need/want more intensity.

"deeper" is not in my vocabulary, however "there/thats it/you've got it" is my way of saying 'don't stop what you're doing because its perfect right there'.

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 7:09am

>>"harder" for me means that I'm enjoying it but I need/want more intensity.<<

See, that's what I've understood as well. I'm having a discussion on another forum as to the definition of "harder" and as to the frequency of, "deeper".

Katmandoo -- this is the ironic thing. When y'all say harder because you're having an orgasm, you *mean* pick it up. When we're having an orgasm, we *are* trying to push ourselves in as deep as we possibly can. It's a semen thing.

Ekab333 -- as a matter of fact, I've asked all of them and they do mean pick up the intensity. My ex-wife had to be careful sometimes what she wished for because sometimes she'd let out this gasp and say, "Whoa, too deep." It wasn't painful or anything, but it was a gasping thing?? Hmm, I may have another thread question in mind.

goddess_musclegirl -- now when you yell out, "Harder! Faster!", do you also want it deeper?

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:28am
yes, actually I do want it deeper when I yell or cry for it to be harder
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:51am

Fascinating.

Thanks for the response!

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 12:51pm
No, I mean harder, not necessarily faster. I need more more intensity in the thrusting and grinding where I need it most...on the outside. My DH knows what I mean with my actions after all these years and we accomodate one another. My intensity and pleasure only spurs him on, regardless of how deep he is. I'm quite sure other couples have different needs though.


Edited 4/2/2005 1:53 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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