Yelling out, "Harder!"

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Yelling out, "Harder!"
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 8:58am

Okay, I've got a question for the women on this forum.

When you, in the throes of passion, yell out, "Harder! Do me HARDER!" or something like that, what is it that generally motivates you? Is it that you want more depth because you're tenting and need it deeper inside to be satiated? More of an impact on your clitoris? Could it be wanting to raise the animalistic intensity of the whole act? Is it the friction that you need more of?

More to the point, does anyone actually yell out, "DEEPER! I want you DEEPER!"?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 1:48pm
I'm not sure what you mean by "tenting" but if I'm in the middle of things and want it "harder" I can either say so or just actually DO something that gets my SO to respond that way. In any case, if that's what I'm interested in, it's usually because I'm keen on intensifying the experience, whatever the resulting sensations are. It's also something that my new SO and I kind of play by ear, depending on whatever mood we're in or perceive each other to be in. I can't normally see myself demanding one thing when I know (or feel) that he's in the mood for something else. Unless, of course, my "demanding" something flips his switch in some way...but that's a different discussion, I'm thinking...:-D
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 3:27pm

>>I'm not sure what you mean by "tenting"...<<

When a woman orgasms, the back of her vaginal wall expands and balloons further up into her body. I've heard several explanations why, bu this is what I've heard termed as, "tenting".

Thanks for the clarification, kat.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 3:42pm
Ok, if I'm "tenting" because I'm orgasming, I'm hardly going to be verbal enough to ask for anything like "harder" to be sure!
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 5:05pm
Excellent point

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