you don't like missionary??? WHAT!!!!
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you don't like missionary??? WHAT!!!!
| Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:22pm |
My boyfriend will try any other postion in the world except missionary.
That sucks! Because I looooove missionary.
I like looking at him, and holding his muscles!
And he won't do it.
He might even put his pants BACK ON! to avoid doing it.
What can I do and say to change his mind?
We haven't done missionary in months! And I'm craving it!!!

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Welcome to the board bc07.
Have you tried talking with him about your feelings, outside of the bedroom? He may be self-conscious or he could be having other problems that make him feel uncomfortable in missionary position. I know in that position, guys definitely have to do most of the work, which is physically demanding.
If you want to talk with him and try and figure out why he doesn't enjoy that position, it is best to have a conversation outside of the bedroom, in a casual manner. Perhaps he doesn't realize how important it is to you to incorporate that position.
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"What can I do and say to change his mind?
We haven't done missionary in months! And I'm craving it!!!"
It may take some will power, but refuse him until he obliges you in the missionary position. I have had to use refusal and ultimatums in the past and it works! I have an iron will the patients of Job I can always out last DH so now he's learned not to even try to resist or hold out.
my partner in the siggy exchange
>>> 80% of my sex life has been missionary <<<
maybe that's why
maybe there is so much stress put on missionary as a bland/vanilla postion, that he doesn't want to
he wants to be super porn man who can pull off the Triple Lindy, in bed
maybe his knees hurt, or it strains his back, only he can say WHY & if he WON'T talk about it, that's a whole other topic
Interesting comment danidi. For me, making love to my DH is much like a dance. Having sex with him is much more like a funky dance. Either way, the goal is to connect with him, to enjoy each other and to have fun. I find that we enjoy the mutual pleasures -- neither of us enjoys being demanding or controlling of the other. In that respect, I do find it to be playful in general. Having an enjoyable time in life -- whether it be through a card game, a good meal, or a satisfying sexual encounter -- is a treat in my book. They are the things that make me feel happy and lucky to be alive!
I personally feel that with holding sex would build up resentment for BOTH of us. I would be constantly reminded of "why" we weren't having sex, which would ultimately lead to my own frustration and unhappiness. In my life, I find that I am much happier when looking at the positive aspect of things. Having a battle of the wills is merely a search to find the weaker partner. I know if I was forbidden pleasure until I broke my will, chances are, there would be no more pleasure to be had.
my partner in the siggy exchange
Thanks everyone for your help!
I got him to have missionary last night! And it was great.
I just asked him why he wouldn't. If he didn't like doing all the work?
Once I told him that I just liked to be skin on skin, close, and holding his muscles ... he dove right in!
Haha.
You guys have a lot of really good advice that I think I will definetly be trying.
Thanks!
my partner in the siggy exchange
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