Your Top Two Tips for Hot Sex?
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| Mon, 11-07-2005 - 5:39am |
So what are they? Give us a tip and a brief reason for choosing it.
I've allowed you two since choosing just one is really hard :-)
Heck, add some more if you feel like it, it'll be interesting to see whether or not we all agree.
Mine?
Communication: The cornerstone of any good relationship. If you can talk and listen and take on-board what the other person is saying without dismissing them, pre-judging them, attacking them for their opinion or thoughts even though they may be different from what you are comfortable with then you are well on the way towards a healthy understanding of what your partner wants and needs in the relationship and their sex life.
Exercise: You've heard it before but those endorphins keep rearing their little heads. You don't need to go to the gym - a brisk walk for twenty minutes, ride a bike, walk some stairs. Get the blood moving, the heart pumping and the metabolism ticking along. Couch potatoes beware. A lack of exercise is a sure-fire way to slow down your brain, your sex life and your libido.

I definitely are with you on your two tips.
OK, my tips.
1) TEASE. This can be something as simple as a suggestive comment, or sensual tickling, or whatever, but the tingling sensations that I feel from being teased just make me want it more.
2) do something totally unexpected every once in a while that you know your partner will love. It could be greeting them at the door in some sexy lingerie, or something that they'd really appreciate, whatever.
3) HAVE FUN. To me, sex isn't supposed to be serious. It's supposed to be fun. You need to laugh at the mishaps. Grumpy people are a turn off, so are people that concentrate so hard on what they are doing that they forget to appreciate how their partner is or isn't reacting.
>>2. Don't wait for bedtime <<
That's a good one! Yep. Good sex is about more than just doing it at bedtime. Building anticipation throughout the day and breaking the routine is a good way of keeping things interesting.
My best advice would be to have sex with someone you LOVE! There's no overestimating the impact of emotions on sexual response...particularly for women.
And I've found an equal interest and concern for your partner's experience will always make YOUR experience better!