Need Advice for Strapon Play

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Need Advice for Strapon Play
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Sun, 08-09-2009 - 9:34am
I've asked this before but have never solved the problem. I use a harness and strapon with my partners but give an enema first. After the enema and after we've begun, as soon as they really open up to me for deep penetration, fecal matter appears if I go too deep with the dildo. What are we doing wrong? Am I allowing too much water into the colon? Some people find this too terribly embarrassing. Please help.
Cunégonde
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 3:57am

We use a Fleet Enema. We empty the laxative solution that it is filled with and refill with lukewarm water. Use half of the water-expel and then use the other half-expel. Then we shower and we are squeaky clean. It only takes a small amount of water to clean you out-no need for a large apparatus-a couple of ounces of water is all you need. It is a good idea to have a bowel movement a couple of hours before the enema.

We don't have any problems with fecal matter. DW uses a 6.5 inch dildo on the strap on and she inserts all of it in me. Feels so good.

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Sun, 08-16-2009 - 11:29am

Thank you so much for answering again; you've tried to help me before. I can't imagine it being so simple. Are you sure? Does your wife push it in deep? If I do that with my partners, often fecal matter appears. They've had a bowel movement and their rectums are clean. My boyfriend really likes me to ram him, but my girlfriends like it more gentle but nonetheless deep, and still with them often (50% about) there is the problem.

When successful, it really is pleasurable!! Even for me! Incidentally, does your wife use a double-dildo?

Cunégonde
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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 4:14am
We tried a Feeldoe Slim. She thought it was too big(too large in diameter)for her:however., it was OK for me. We may try using a Nexus Jr. It looks a little smaller in diameter. We both like the idea of a double dildo.
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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 7:36am
I was just wondering if she can come while using the strapon. I usually do, even without the double, and at first before I was used to it, the mere idea was enough to bring me close--i.e. when I first entered someone using it.
Cunégonde
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Tue, 08-18-2009 - 4:53am
Our harness has a vibrator for stimulating her clitoris while she does me. She gives me a handjob while she does me. We usually cum together. She is so excited and hot when she puts the dildo in me she will cum very fast.
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Tue, 08-18-2009 - 12:46pm

Hmm, I haven't used the little battery vibe that fits inside. Do you know if it helps her or does it just enhance her orgasms? The first time I ever did this with someone else, I quickly came just at the sight of it going in him. (As I didn't want HIM too quickly, I didn't tell him until afterwards I had come just going in.) Incidentally, the first time I did this I had a cheap strapon which kept slipping and I had to hold the dildo in place from time to time, and also I went way too deep, I think, because there was the embarrassing problem of poo on the dildo and poo is NOT a lubricant; it is, rather, ANTI-lube. I just can't get either the enema or the not-too-deep-thrusting right, I guess, as I've told you.

And naturally, I, too, play with the pleasure spots of my partners during this. I have always been sexually curious. To tell you the truth, I love the way my partners look at me with it on. They are thrilled.

Sieglinde Cunegonde
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