New, New, New...Need Advice

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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 11:45am

I'm considering buying my 1st toy (besides the occasional tryst w/ a back massager).

Laura

mommy to Sofia, Philip, Julia, & Adelina

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 1:25pm
Hi redlk, and welcome to the board. The first toy I bought for DW was a pocket rocket, and it's still the one she primarily reaches for when she just needs a little clitoral stimulation to help her get 'there'. It's small enough to not get in the way during i/c, and powerful enough to get the job done (at least for her). They also come in waterproof versions that are great for enjoying some 'quality time' in the shower. The downside is that there's only one vibration speed, so if it happens to work for you that's great, and if not you're out of luck.

Rabbits are great for solo play, or for your DH to use on you in lieu of intercourse, but as you've found out there are a lot of choices — and there's a lot going on while using one, both internally and clitorally. When DW and I were in the market for one we trekked down to our local Good Vibes outlet so that the helpful staff could help us navigate the various choices. Things to think about are whether you prefer the controls (there should be two of them: one to control the rotation speed, and one to control the "ears") at the base of the vibe (which is where most of them seem to be these days) or attached to a wired "remote" for easier access.



Many of the women here also swear by their Hitachi magic wands, which are sometimes referred to as the Cadillac of vibes. DW and I don't have one (yet), but from what I understand about them I think they might be a bit much for a first vibe.





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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 3:11pm
Hi Redlk, and welcome to the board!

I think a rabbit is a great style vibe -- it really offers you a lot in different areas. Steve highlighted some of the differences, perhaps I can elaborate on them a little more ...


For me, the controls at the base of the rabbit seemed to be too awkward. When I'm using it solo, I don't necessarily want to have to have my hands at the base of the toy -- which isn't a very comfortable reach for me. Because of that, I chose the wired remote kind. I love it! Besides being able to be in a variety of positions, including just laying back and enjoying, it's great for when DH and I use it together. He drives the vibe and I control the rotations and speeds. It's all good ;-)


Some rabbits have pearls in the middle of the insertable portion. I also highly recommend them! The ones on mine hit my g-spot perfectly, and I even have a button that can change the direction they rotate in. That's a nice feature if things are getting intense and you want to back off a bit without too many changes, or if things feel like they are getting mundane -- like you're taking a long time to reach your goal. Just a different spin can get you back in the game, so to speak.


The controls on mine also rotate freely. That makes it nice because you can build the intensity slowly or back off a bit and build back up easily. No clicking into gear or anything, it just a smooth operation. It's also cool because if DH is at the control, I don't know what's going to happen when -- there's no noise to associate with the changes once each part of the toy is on. You may prefer to have the clitoral part moving without the inside part moving at all, or at least some times you might prefer that, or visa-versa. I think it's important to have the separate controls for each part so you can customize your experience to fit your needs.


When I use my rabbit, my climax is definitely something that builds more slowly. Make sure you have patience with it .... once you get there, and start experiencing the different types of orgasms you can have with it, you'll look forward to the journey every time!


I'm posting a picture of mine below (it was around $40). I did get it from an A&E store, but haven't found it on their website recently. I do know they have similar ones though ....







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Registered: 10-14-2008
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 7:13pm

I've heard rave reviews of the Rabbit, but I care not one bit for Adam and Eve, seems to be mostly cheap crap. Get a good one! You 'll probably have to pay for what you get, but I would be wary of A&E!


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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 8:29pm
You might also want to check out Suki's wonderful thread on how to separate the wheat from the chaff when it comes to sex toys.

Brand Me Baby!





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Registered: 02-17-2007
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 9:18pm

I just recently became a Rabbit owner and am very, very happy with it! I actually have the Butterfly from Vibratex. I love the variety of speed this offers and the butterfly clitoral vibrator makes some very cool sensations on my clit. Very fluttery!

Vibratex actually made the original rabbit vibe, the Rabbit Pearl, which is similar to Misty's. It has a separate controller which makes it a little easier for some, especially if there will be someone else doing the "driving" of the toy. I would personally go for the Vibratex Elastomer Rabbit Pearl if you want to go with a rabbit vibe with a separate controller. Vibratex uses Japanese motors which last much longer and the beads do not ever pinch. They also come in different materials like silicone or elastomer which are much healthier choices for our bodies. The Vibratex models also have a pretty good range of speeds and they do very thorough testing on their products before they release it for sale, so you know you are getting something good quality.

Hope you let us know what you decide to go with!

 

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Registered: 06-10-2006
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 10:53pm

Thank you all for

Laura

mommy to Sofia, Philip, Julia, & Adelina

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 12:36am
Unless your Dr. says differently, you can still use your vibrator if you get pg. :)

 

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Fri, 10-17-2008 - 11:32am

Like was commented above
"Because of that, I chose the wired remote kind."

Whenever possible, we select toys with wired remotes. That way either person can conveniently make adjustments. It also moves the weight of the batteries out of the toy and into the remote. The batteries can be larger and longer lasting because they are not limited to a small space in the toy itself.

Paul

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Fri, 10-17-2008 - 11:51am

I just ordered and received my first toy and per the recommendations of everyone here I ordered a rabbit.

 

 

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 2:17pm

Thanks for sharing that, Paul!

I agree about the wired remotes. I know the wires can seem to be a pain sometimes, but you really have a lot more options that way!

I had a toy lady recently tell me that "the wired kind are outdated" when discussing rabbits. She says all the newer styles have the controls at the base. I feel sad if that's true. I find that I use the toys that require me to keep my hands held tight to them far less than the toys that allow me to lay in a comfortable position while using them.





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