Should I try again?

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Registered: 09-25-2008
Should I try again?
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 11:10am

Hi Ladies and Gentlemen


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Registered: 02-01-2008
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 4:09pm

Oh I say buy her one. If she has asked twice my guess is she wants to use it again. She may just be too shy to ask or put it so bluntly as "I want that" ya know. My first vibe was a rabbit it is awsome. I can't imagine any woman would not like one of them.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 11:31pm

I would definitely give it another try!

I would recommend you get something that really concentrates more on clitoral stimulation than anything else. It's doesn't have to be overly large, but it should have a good bit of power.

Also, to get her going on it, try using it on her during foreplay. Some can be combined with oral too, or switch off between oral and the vibe.

It might not be an overnight love affair, but every now and then, try it again (and maybe after a couple of drinks). Once becomes comfortable, and starts enjoying it, you can move on to different toys from there.





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Registered: 12-16-2007
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 11:38pm

I agree with the other two posts. I think

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Registered: 09-25-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 9:06am

Thanks for your suggestions.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 9:28am

Brad, just a word about the shift in her libido (assuming this is a shift). She's likely to be going through a lot of hormonal changes at the age of 47 which could be having an affect. If she's on any type of medication, including birth control, that could be playing a factor into her libido too.

Has she talked with her doctor about what's going on? There might be some small changes that could be made that would really help to reawaken her.

I can understand how you would be confused. It seems that she's really into sex on the rare occasion that she gets there -- I know I had a time in my life that was very similar. I have always liked sex, but there were long periods of time when I didn't have a drive for it.





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Registered: 09-25-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 9:52am

Misty


This is not a recent shift.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 1:56pm
I would start with a small NON-intimdating toy, like a bullet or other clitorial stimulator before jumping right in with a dildo.

 


 


 


 


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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 5:35pm

I would start with a pocket rocket or a rabbit, the other thing you could do is get a wahl vibe, it is a little vibe with like 5 diferent attatchments. Its a vibe that can also be used for back, neck, legs, ect. I would go buy some candles and a nice masage oil, a little wine and the vibe, start out with a slow message using your hands and oil, kiss her soft and slow, message her whole body, try to stay away from the genitals to start out with. Then get out the vibe, use it on her back, neck, legs, arms, breast and then start working your way to the inner thigh. when you do get to the genitals take it slow and soft, if she is conservitave you need to work her into a frinzzy. Make sure while you are using toys to tell her you love her lots and keep touching her with your hands also. You do not want to make her feel like she is making love to a robbot.

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:39pm

It sounds to me like she wants to get one, but doesn't like the idea of it. I would look for something extremely discreet in appearance and something also pretty quiet. In my opinion, the perfect solution is the Lily from LELO. It is a beautiful, rechargable clitoral vibe that has the perfect texture for our sexy bits. The shape of it makes it perfect for use during intercourse, solo or oral. I keep mine in my purse.

I can't seem to link any images ATM, so here is a link to view some:

http://images.google.com/images?q=lily%20lelo&ie=UTF-8&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&sa=N&tab=wi

 

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Registered: 09-25-2008
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 9:11am

Well after an almost 3 month delay, I FINALLY ORDERED a toy for my DW.

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