A Toy Virgin with Some Questions

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Registered: 03-26-2003
A Toy Virgin with Some Questions
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Mon, 01-26-2009 - 9:01pm

DH & I have been married for 20 years and have never experimented with toys. A friend gave us a Trojan vibrating ring last year that we tried and found distracting. This same friend is encouraging me to not give up based on that so I thought I'd poke around here for some advice.

Where do you keep them if you have kids in the house? We only have a 17 yo dd but she occasionally gets in the nightstand for a nail file or a pen. I know that I snooped in my parents room pretty frequently as a teen and I would rather she not find anything.

FWIW, I enjoy anal stimulation even though we've never had anal sex and I'm open to an anal toy.

So what toy do you recommend for me and what's a good "hiding place?"

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 9:29pm

Welcome to the board, Julee.

The small, disposable vibrating rings usually aren't very powerful. I'm glad your friend advised you to keep looking!

Many of the members here swear by a Pocket Rocket for a first toy. It's a clitoral stimulator that is easy to include in partnered events and intercourse. Many of them are also waterproof too, and some have interchangeable parts for the top so that there are different textures/feels to the vibe.

I really think a clitoral vibe is the best place to start.

I found that when I first started using toys, I didn't enjoy things that went inside and vibrated. I have a rabbit now, and love it, but I don't know that I would have wanted it as a first toy.

I have kids too, and I've hid my toys in several places. Luckily, my kids are boys, and they aren't likely to want to borrow my things. One of the best places I've found to hide things is in a bag, hanging on a hanger with a shirt or something over it. One member here said they hid theirs in a locking briefcase under the bed -- I thought that was a great idea too!

Keep us posted on what you decide to try -- we love reviews!





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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 10:01pm
I had to ask DH where he hid the Trojan ring before we used it. He said he put it in the inside pocket of his suit jacket that he's only worn one or two times. DD would never look there! I don't know that we've got pockets big enough for some things I've seen! I'd love to have one of those ramp things but they sure are pricey and would be much harder to hide!
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 8:38am
I would love a ramp too! I've seen some inflatable types, but I don't know how well they would hold up.


Here are a couple of past posts that talk about where to store toys too ....



Storage



Where is Your Toy Box/Caught???




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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 5:46pm
DW and I have the Liberator wedge/ramp combo, and it's definitely too big to fit under our bed. Our teenage DS asked what it was once, and we told him it was for massage.

We keep a couple of our more commonly used vibes in the nightstand drawer, but all the really kinky toys are in a locked trunk in our bedroom.


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Registered: 11-04-2008
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 6:53pm
hi julee.....i love the ohmidbod...its great and not too intense. im not sure of a good hiding place b/c me and my hubby dont have any kids to hide things from :)
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 10:10pm

I can say ....

I hide mine in my standing jewelry box. The pink bag looks lovely hanging on one of the necklace hooks, LOL.