Using a toy on husband

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Using a toy on husband
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Thu, 10-01-2009 - 1:02pm

I would like to spice our sex life up. We have been married for 23 years and have a normal sex life. We love watching porn together however, I would like to introduce some toys. How do I go about doing this? I would

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 8:06pm

Welcome to the board, Sportsmom ~ nice to see you joining in.

If you're not sure how your DH will react to toys, you could start off with something like a vibrating penis ring. They make fairly small ones that are sold by some condom companies, right in the store where you find condoms. A lot of pharmacies and stores like Walmart carry them, making it easy to pick them up. They aren't very strong and most women do not get off when they're used, but it is a great way to open this new door.

On the anal play issue, is your DH open to anal on you? Do you ever do any sort of anal play on him? If either of those occur, you could open a dialog about how you would like to experiment more. If he's not shown any interest in anal, you can try adding some stimulation during oral sex. Pressure on the perineum should stimulate his prostate. If he seems to enjoy it, then you could start moving further down. If you can get your finger inside of him, you'll find his prostate around 2 or 3 inches up. Just curl your finger in a come-hither manner, pointing upward toward his navel. Most guys who enjoy anal play love having their prostate stimulated this way during oral, and it normally gives them a stronger orgasm.

Here's an article that might have more ideas too:

How Do I Give my Guy Anal Pleasure?
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/questions/give-anal-pleasure












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Registered: 09-25-2008
Fri, 10-02-2009 - 8:41am

Well, from a man in his 23rd year of marriage (that would be ME!) I can confirm the pleasure of a vibrator on ME.

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Fri, 10-02-2009 - 5:04pm

Good advice from the posters.

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 3:00pm

Hello,


Start with the anal, as a male i love it when my wife plays with me anally, I would start off by giving him a nice slow BJ, and start to rub the spot between his anus and his testicals, rub soft at first then push just a little bit, this is very arousing for lots of men, don't be affraid to ask him if he likes that then slowly work your way down to the anus rub very softly on the opening and ask him if he likes that (do not insert your finger though doing this dry could hurt) then i would see how he reacts. After this you will need to talk to him tell him that you have been wanting to give him a prostate message, using "prostate message" will not scare most men as much as "Anal Sex"

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 10:44pm

Well if you want to make it fun, make a little wager on say a football game (that wager might be use of a toy or if he wins give him a surprise - the toy and then you guys have to use the surprise)

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Sat, 10-10-2009 - 8:07am

We play games like that sometimes, but you have to win to get your sexual favor. Of course, even when you lose, you feel like you're winning, lol.












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Registered: 03-11-2005
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 3:54am
DW always uses an anal toy to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. My orgasms are out of sight.
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Registered: 09-26-2006
Sun, 10-18-2009 - 11:24am

We bought some toys including the vibrating egg. The vibrator came with the set. My wife had never used a vibrator before. And I asked her to try, and to her surprise she had one of the most intense orgasms ever. We too are fairly conservative in our sex. With the kids gone, we can do some things on our own time and privacy. I have ED and can have vaginal intercourse, but I don't ejaculate inside her. I either did oral on her or manually rubbed her to orgasm. Now we let her use the vibrator. She wanted to know what to do next ,and I out of the blue, said put on the tip of my penis. She does that, and it does take a while, but I have the most intense ejaculation ever. As I don't/can't ejaculate inside her, she rubbed me for ejaculation. Now we have the vibrator to do that.


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Mon, 10-19-2009 - 9:32am

Welcome to the board, Wes ~ great to see you joining in.

So happy to hear that you two are trying out sex toys too!!!! You might want to try out a penis ring. It can help with the ED, and they make some that have nubs for clitoral stimulation as well as vibrate.


















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Registered: 11-07-2009
Sat, 11-14-2009 - 11:33am

DW has done a lot of anal play with me. Usually with her tongue, or occasionally with her fingers. She loves it, as do I.

the other evening she asked me if she could use a vibrator. it was an exciting idea for me, but I acted like i was reluctant. she did not fully penetrate me, but it certainly got her so excited.

Now i am hoping to somehow, someday work a strap on session into our evening.

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