Advice...

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Registered: 03-30-2005
Advice...
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Mon, 04-04-2011 - 4:18pm
So I have been with my other half for almost 11yrs. Over the yrs we have been through alot including infadelity on both sides. On my part I have not did anything for almost 6 yrs. And on his part since December when I found out that him and another girl went to the movies. There has been alot of isues betewwen us but we now have 4 kids, all under the age of 9. I am working full time as well as going to school part time, alot of times when I come home from work I have to clean and make dinner, then finish homework, and do bedtime, plus try to find time to finish my own homework and class assignments. I still find myslef having these arguments with the other half because he feels I dont spend enough time with him, I dont kiss him enough, and Im not intimate enough with him. I find it hard to run a full daily routine and still have energy to be intimate in bed. He believes that if I can stay up till 12 am I can be intimate with him. To me resting in bed and being intimate is not in the same catagory. I explain to him that Intimacy on the weekend is all I can handle right now, but to him its not enough. I cant handle the stress and sometimes with all the past issues we have had I feel unsure if this is where I want to be. I never wanted my kids to grow up in a broken home jsut as I did, but Im sure we are messing well. He says he loves me and wants us to be a family but then drives me crazy because I communicate with the guys at work, or want to hang out with some me time every once in awhile. I feel trapped in a way and dont know what to do... Any advice given with help with the thoughts in my mind.. ..
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Registered: 04-04-2011
In reply to: lilray2005
Mon, 04-04-2011 - 5:15pm

My advice is to "make" the time.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: lilray2005
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 2:20pm

What is he doing while you're working, going to school, coming home and having to clean, cook, homework,



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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: lilray2005
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 3:10am
Make time to be intimate with him.

Don't do that extra load of washing. Spend 45 minutes on the assignment not an hour. Get him to do one of your chores to free up twenty minutes for the two of you later.