After double mastectomy finding it hard to get hubby to understand need more foreplay

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Registered: 04-08-2003
After double mastectomy finding it hard to get hubby to understand need more foreplay
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Tue, 04-24-2012 - 10:54pm

Hi,

Been married a very long time (34 years) and have always had a terrific sex life but since my mastectomy and losing all feelings in my chest area.

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Registered: 01-03-2007

Well, it isn't hard to do a google search and figure out what is porn and what isn't. I just Googled "double mastectomy sexual desire afterwards" and every entry was halth and medical related. Maybe you could find pertinent articles and send him the links if he is so afraid? What would even happen if it was a porn site if he was doing it at home?

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Registered: 08-01-2006

Hi. Like amante said it's not that hard to find sites that aren't porn.

Let me ask you this... do you know what you like/need/want for foreplay? If so, tell him. He's not a mind reader and I don't think he really should be looking online because everyone is different. What I might like you could hate. Do you need more clit stimulation? More oral? Whatever it is YOU need to tell him. Now, if he doesn't listen to you that's a whole nother issue.



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Registered: 12-25-2006

Is he afraid of touching your chest and causing you pain?