Am I obsessing about oral ?

Hi there CH. It's good to see you! Sorry to hear there have been medical issues, but glad things are ok.

As for the wife and oral, well, you know I'm going to say that you really need to sit and talk about it. She's never let you get off in her mouth, except for that one time by accident. How was she when that happened? Some women just don't like it. Me, personally, I've never had a man get off in my mouth. Usually it's because they, and I, wanted them inside me.

Why is it getting like this now? Could be because it's not something that has happened frequently, and you're getting older. You know what I mean.

I can’t explain it either, but I normally go through phases where I desire a particular thing. I’ve joked with my wife about my “fantasy of the week.”

I am sorry to hear this. Is it oral all together that she doesn't like? Would she perform oral, and then finish you with a hand job? I know it's not really what you want, but it's better than not getting any, isn't it?

You can't possibly do that, as it is important to you.