Bedroom novelty in a long term relationship

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Bedroom novelty in a long term relationship
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 3:48pm

I often hear and read about the idea of introducing new things into the bedroom in order to keep things spicy and novel.

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 2:23pm

I've been married for over 17 years.

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Fri, 05-13-2011 - 9:48am

Thanks for sharing.

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 6:22pm

We have been married over 32 yrs now, and were each other's first and only.

How many of you actually do this? We do it

Are you happy with this part of your relationship? we are very happy

How long have you been together? 32yrs now

Is it you or your partner (or both) who tends to introduce new things? its both of us

Does one of you have a higher libido and drive to try new things? we are about equal in that area, at times one is higher than others

Did you take a break from trying new things for a while (maybe with new kids), and then get back on the wagon? well we had kids 'early' and at that time weren't doing much "new" stuff! LOL! But after the kids lefted the house and it was just the two of us again, we started having fun!

Do you feel that this is important for your relationship? I think its all important anything to help our relationship is a good thing!

What I think is important is that we are BOTH happy with our sex life and enjoy it. There are things we will never do (MFM/MFF) and we both agree on it. There are things that took a while to get into. I wasn't big into Oral sex, but after about 15yrs I started getting into it. so now its a part of our sex life. We have always been open and talk about things. Our best talks have been in the car while on long trips while the kids slept! LOL! and we use talk alot right before bed about things. Back in the day we use to watch 'HBO Real Sex" it was on thursday nights, so that was our 'late night' and we talk about things we saw and about how it would fit into our lifes or not. Being open is one of the best things I think. If you start talking early then you will always talk.

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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 5:46pm

Memeu2, thanks for sharing. 32 years!

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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 12:00pm
dont think "real sex" is on anymore.

I think the reason I wasn't into oral was not really knowing how to do it! :-) but after watching 'real sex' one night it was all about oral sex and what to do and not to do. Then the next day I thought I should try...it took me a few times to really get into it. We will go a month or so of no oral then it will be all about oral! LOL!

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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 11:44am

How many of you actually do this?

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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 11:37pm
How many of you actually do this? We do.

Are you happy with this part of your relationship? ready for something new, just not sure what, i enjoy my toys, but new ones are always great!

How long have you been together? been married 12y this summer. we were each others first and only.

Is it you or your partner (or both) who tends to introduce new things? mostly him

Does one of you have a higher libido and drive to try new things? me now. use to be him. our kids are older (youngest 4y and our kids were extended nursed).

Did you take a break from trying new things for a while (maybe
with new kids), and then get back on the wagon? no, not really. I was very horny when prego. learned about squirting during a pregnancy. still enjoy now. have low libido when just nursing and not sleeping well.

Do you feel that this is important for your relationship? Yes, we want to keep it fresh.
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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 12:03pm

Wornsilver & Pippi,

Thanks for sharing.