Bringing In A Third Person During Sex

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Bringing In A Third Person During Sex
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Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:59pm
I've deleted this message because it seems to make a lot of people in this area uncomfortable. I've taken the topic over to the "Taboos" board instead. Thanks to all who replied and I apologize if I've offended anyone.


Edited 3/29/2005 8:43 pm ET ET by leashedtigress

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 9:36pm
leashed,
Wow, I would love if my wife proposed a threesome as I have always wanted to do that as I've never done it before.
However, I think if she (my wife) wanted to have two guys at once, I would only think it fair, I got to have her and another girl together sometime. I only mention this as I bet your hubby would want the same...
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Sun, 03-27-2005 - 11:59pm
I've deleted this message because it seems to make a lot of people in this area uncomfortable. I've taken the topic over to the "Taboos" board instead. Thanks to all who replied and I apologize if I've offended anyone.


Edited 3/29/2005 8:44 pm ET ET by leashedtigress
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 6:42am
We've been married for many years, there is no jealousy at all and we totally trust each other. The thought of watching another man (or two) with my wife is definitely something that excites me. We talk about her doing me and my best friend and it is always a possibility. She always seems to be up for it when we discuss it. She mentioned the thought of taking on a few guys at once is exciting but doesn't think she could ever go that far (maybe if it were the couple of guys). I'm sure she would go as far as doing by friend orally and let him do her orally. I do picture her performing oral on him while I do her doggie style. I'm sure that could happen when the moment is right. I'm like your husband, I would enjoy sitting back and watching her and him. I would love to watch her face as she is being pleasured as well as seeing his face as she pleasures him.
I'm sure the our friend will have a good time as well as your husband's friend.
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 8:13am

I guess I will add my thoughts as they are more about consequences then the act.

-Pam

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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 8:26am

Welcome to the board!!!


I am a whole hearted advocate for the sacredness of the marriage bed, so naturally, I personally am not for threesomes of any kind, as is my DH.


That being said, if you and your DH are both open to the experience, whatever floats your boat. Do I think it's a good idea? No. It seems you have both talked openly about this and thought about it and are not taking it lightly, so I just hope you are careful and that no hurt feelings come from it.


If you have to pursaude the third party to join, then I would consider a different third party. Is having that particular man be with you in the threesome worth more than his friendship with your DH and you?


Good luck.


Jennie




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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 9:08am

I have to say No way for me and my DH...I will not 'share him' or 'share myself' with anyone but each other. To me theres way to many problems that come out off a thing like this.


we tend to talk about married sex here on The Secrets of Married Sex, and so if this topic is not widely responded to, you'll know why. It might be a better question taken over to Fantasies

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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 6:37pm

Our motto is: Fantasy - good. Reality - bad.


To me, marriage vows preclude a third person in the bed. Even if the idea has *physical* postive potential, the potential negative effects on the emotions and other parts of the marriage just aren't worth it.



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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 8:19am

If I were you I'd take him up on the offer to video tape. Then at least you get to exhibit your inner exhibitionist!

And maybe if you're acting all super hot once your hubby is done, you can look his friend in the eye (or the camera lens) and say "I need more _____. Please give me more."

I've always fantasized about two guys so let us know how it goes!

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:27am

It's not for Dh and I.

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 11:33am

I'd never do it. It's one thing to talk about it (which can be exciting) or to watch porn with threesomes on it (something we like to do too), but when you bring in real flesh and more importantly real feelings, you're asking for it.

You can think you'll be cool about it, but as a woman, once you have GREAT sex like this, you're going to get emotionally involved.

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