Can this be fixed?

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Can this be fixed?
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Mon, 08-20-2012 - 11:56am

Hi. I usually post in the EAS board, but I wanted to ask you whether anyone has experience with this.

I had an affair and ended up separating from my H. The A didn't work out, and now I'm beginning (very slowly) to consider the possibility of trying to fix things with my H, but I don't want to jump into it yet. There are many things that bind us, among them a child, and also the friendship that we've had over the years.

My main problem is that sex with my xAP was great, like nothing I had ever experienced. With my H it was never that way. I think I have a stronger sex drive than my H, and I'm also much less inhibited than him. I wonder whether CT might help us resolve other issues that would eventually lead us to improving our sex life. I'd like to know whether anyone here has dealt with similar issues and has been able to solve them.

Yoga

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Mon, 08-20-2012 - 4:34pm
I like to think anything can be "fixed" if you both want it. I will take some hard work for both of you. just dont think your H will be like your AP, and dont compare them, as they are different nd your different with each of them.

memeu siggy 4-08

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Tue, 08-21-2012 - 9:57am

Have you talked to you DH about your need for sex and tried to open things up? You can definitely find counselors that specialize in sexual issues, if you H is willing to go, then I think it would be great.