Can you ask for what you want?

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Can you ask for what you want?
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 10:37am

How are you guys when it comes to asking for what you want in bed?


Are your Spouses receptive?


How about when it comes to asking for a change? Or expressing a concern?

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 10:41am

I consider myself very lucky that I can ask my DH for anything and while he might shake his head or mutter something like "freaky little nymph" he always oblidges and most often gets into it!!


You should have seen his face when I first told him I think it would be cool to be spanked! LMAO.


But, guess what - he got me a tickler whip for xmas and let the fun begin!!!


Even when we need a change or I am unhappy with something, I have always been able to voice my concerns or opinions and he is receptive.


It goes both ways. It took him longer to open up but now he's as vocal as me!!

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 10:46am

Again, we were just talking about this,... It is starting to get scary.

-Pam

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 10:55am

I would hope that after 25ys together we can talk about what we like or dont' like in bed! LOL! Now 25yrs ago it was hard today its a piece of cake!! We talk all the time about things we would like or not like.


Talking is something we do alot of! We have always talked for hours when we were dating on the phone or in person. Talking has been easy for us.

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:03am
Yes. Communication of any time.. b/c I am serious: there are times in the momemt where I can't actually form words. ;-)

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:31am
In regular technique type things, positions, things like that, we both are pretty good in telling the other what we like and dislike. It's the more taboo stuff that DW doesn't want to talk about. She will get into a mood sometimes when she DOES, but not often. I've pretty much told her everything I would like to do, fantasized about, etc.
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 1:52pm

I am not that good ...... Sometimes my DW Is receptive, other times I am not sure ..... Generally she is willing to do most things, but some things are definitely off the table, others may or may not be on the table, depending on her mood and how she feels physically.

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 4:38pm

I'm pretty bad at asking for what I want.

I think my spouse would be fairly receptive to what I asked for. He's pretty absent-minded so I'm not sure he'd even realize it when I did ask for something.

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 4:57pm

How are you guys when it comes to asking for what you want in bed?

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 6:59pm

***"How are you guys when it comes to asking for what you want in bed?" My wife and I have been married 50 years this April 23rd, so we have gotten to know what each other likes as well as what each other dislikes. I am very vocal and she is very quiet (when we are getting her to orgasm). When getting me to orgasm, she knows what things to say to trigger the right response
***"Are your Spouses receptive?" My wife is very responsive. She has a nature where she enjoys pleasing her mate.

***"How about when it comes to asking for a change? Or expressing a concern?" My wife and I are open to change, but at our age we cannot get into absurd positions even if we were willing. LOL As far as expressing concern, my wife will tell me if she has any concerns about any activity that might cause pain. After all, this is supposed to be about pleasure!!

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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 1:15pm
Both of us feel free to ask for anything and both of us will try anything once (we both have the same no list)
If there is a concern we talk about it openly and honestly.

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