Can't please either way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2011
Can't please either way.
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Sun, 07-08-2012 - 10:10am

Hi I seem to have lost my last question on here as I can't find it -anyhow here goes , I normally initiate our lovemaking and my man said this is not right as I have always been the domineering one in the bedroom and its just the way I am he said . I sort of too offence as I thought all was great as although I do initiate we have a active ,fun,sexy,loving,naughty time and this'll in there , He said its just the way we are but its not normal ?? But if I wait for him to initiate - e would fall asleep! And to make things worse his ex text ova yr ago to say he said that when they were together he has the most loving lovemaking as there hearts beat in sync and their breathing co ordinate and it was great .So when e called me domineering in the love making part and always taking charge I felt slightly insulted as he wont or rarely takes the lead so should I just now wait ?? And let him come on to me=-if being the way I am is so wrong ,

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2012
Re: Can't please either way.
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 12:07pm
I agree, normal is what is normal for you. A man feels great when the woman initiates it. Makes him feel sexy and loved and wanted. Be glad with what you have. Others here would gladly trade places with either of you.
My lady or I initiate the sex, but it doesn't matter.
If it bothers you talk outside the bedroom and discuss it frankly. Tell him you would like to feel sexy and wanted. You need to know he is horny for you.