Do women feel the same?

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Do women feel the same?
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Sat, 03-29-2014 - 11:33pm

Many men consider the size of their penis to be a strong indicator of their sexual prowess. The deep rooted belief that a bigger penis can better sexually satisfy a woman seems to be entrenched from early adolescence;Kissand amongst men this 'bigger is better' notion is probably responsible for a fair few anxieties. But the big question is,  In reality, is it true that women have better sex with a man with a bigger than average penis or is size a somewhat unimportant issue?Tongue Out



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Registered: 12-10-2006
Mon, 03-31-2014 - 9:09pm

To answer this would seem to require either comparison of sex with two different men with "all else being equal" (seems difficult to achieve) or sex with enough different men to build some kind of statistical picture (possible, but I haven't got there).

Anyway I do like to have him "all the way in" and after childbirth, some amount of thickness seems necessary to fill me up properly, so I imagine it could be less enjoyable with someone who's truly small, but for me, sex is something awesome I do with the man I love. Though it's hard to recall at this point my husband's is about the same as others I've had 'twixt my nethers but not the largest I've had in my mouth. I don't think the extra size would make it better.

Well, it's a wishy-washy answer but what'd you expect. Maybe someone who's acquired statistical strength will chime in :-)

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Tue, 04-29-2014 - 4:10pm

my friend said not to finger myself with more than one finger. that way it makes me happier with any thickness. she was right , my bf is almost too thick to go through lol.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 05-13-2014 - 11:33am

I haven't dated or had sex with a man because of the size of his penis. There is more to a man than that.



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Tue, 05-13-2014 - 6:17pm

I agree.  It's far more important how he treats me and how he makes me feel.

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Tue, 05-13-2014 - 6:21pm

It's far important how he treats me and how he makes me feel.

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Sat, 05-17-2014 - 5:21pm

There can be no doubt that when it comes to a relationship personality is more important. When it comes to sex, I had a boyfriend who was very well endowed but also very selfish/lazy in bed so I actually never came once with him. Conversely, my current boyfriend is not very well endowed at all but always goes the extra mile and I come every time. So in my opinion size is definitely not everything!

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:40pm

For me it depends on how aroused I am and a lot of other factors. My husband is not well endowed but we can have great sex. My OSO (other significan other) is quite well equipped and we also have great sex. Kissing, foreplay and oral is a big part of lovemaking and intercourse is the main event.

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Fri, 05-30-2014 - 4:19pm

As to the issue of size, it's all about fantasy, at least as far as I am concerned.

I am a woman around 40 and a boyfriend who is much older. My lover and I share our fantasies with each other, which is a kind of foreplay we sometimes enjoy, and we look at porn together, too, photos and videos of men and women both, and while we're doing so, we play with each other before having what is usually quite prolonged and fulfilling sexual intercourse.

To be honest, with regard to the issue of size, each of us likes "bigger ones" with regard to porn and men's sizes. In our fantasy lives, which we share, "bigger is better," with regard to men's size. And so it often is, too, when we look at the nude photos or videos of women, too, but with the caveat that really big breasts don't excite us. Women with shapely and large--but not huge-- breasts and with plump bottoms and thighs (but not too fat or obese ones) are really a turn on for us both. We talk about what pleases us, the "minute thoughts" or "little sensations" that we feel while looking at porn: I love this behavior of ours that increases our intimacy and compatibility. Neither of us enjoys looking at women or men who are thin or at least "too thin" for our sexual tastes. Thus we both are turned on looking at men in good shape and well-endowed, even muscular stocky men and at plump shapely women and not thin skinny ones of either sex. My lovely man gets very excited when I look at men's nude photos and at women's too, and his excitement excites me and so the photos are a huge turn on. So much for fantasy and the photos and videos we look at or watch. I suppose the same would hold true if we went to a male strip club, too, because, well, "bigger ones" can be seen better than smaller ones. That's all.

So it seems "big" is important with regard to fantasy. But it's not so important in bed.

My love's is only 6 inches long but thick, and because I am small down there, he seems to me quite big, even very large to me, and he's such a great lover, I haven't thought of any other man for months and months.... Silly women who don't share their secret thoughts with their men or who even deny they have fantasies--such women make their partners miserable with their stupid secrecy, which they usually call their "modesty." My sweet man and I started sharing everything a few months back, including all thoughts that were in any way connected to our relation, and our sex life took off zooming the speed of light for the pleasure of other worlds. We make love so often you wouldn't believe me if I told you.

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Thu, 07-17-2014 - 9:20am

This our perspective on this and it has served my wife and me well for many years. Physically we are both average but we have learned that the most important sex organ is your mind. If you care for each other, communicate, and both pay attention to the others desires and needs then size becomes a non-issue. You will find fun and exciting ways to please each other. A man with a small member but who pays attention to his partner will make a far better lover than one well hung thinking only of himself.

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Tue, 11-18-2014 - 9:36am

I agree with the general tone of the other comments.  All things being equal, which they aren't, bigger and thicker are better,

To exand a little on my personal experience, I have put up with more from a guy while dating because he was "gifted" and I did dump a guy who I wasn't really crazy about because he was small.  But on the whole if a guy is awesome to me and I love him it wouldn't be the end of the world if he was smaller

Karin W