Does he like my fantasy? Men reply plez!

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Does he like my fantasy? Men reply plez!
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Fri, 01-20-2006 - 3:32pm
A couple of weeks ago DH and I were discussing our fantasies. I told him one of mine was to watch him masterbate. He replied, "Oh, yeah? Maybe we can do that." Well, that was awhile ago, and we have sex almost every night. He hasn't initiated anything yet. I am wondering if what I am asking is too risque? Are a lot of men shy about that? He watches me, but I have never asked him if he likes that either. Some insight please! How would I encourage him to touch himself if he is just shy?
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Registered: 11-17-2005
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 4:39pm

Okay, not male but I gotta reply b/c until last night I was in the same boat! Yeah, one of mine was to see him "masturbate." I said something to him awhile ago and he just didn't respond. Then he asked me last week why I would want to see him do that, to which I responded "why do you like to see me?" Needless to say all he did was smile! So he understood but I guess he was still having those issues about him being the one to play with "it." See depending on how you were brought up, to some people that's a MAJOR no-no. But last night I guess he decided to let go and while giving him oral he moved his hand down and started stroking. Well, I just had to stop and watch, which of course just got me hotter!

So my advice, just talk to him. Express how this is something YOU would like. Perhaps while discussing it, find out something he would like. It's a great opportunity to unlock some of those desires that have been burning, but afraid to ask! HTH

 

 

 

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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 12:14pm
Yes, I think most men would love for their partners to watch them 'rub one out' if given the chance! This is something we've done during lovemaking. My wife enjoys it when I straddle her chest and squirt a healthy load on her chest.... lol it's all in the visual!!
And I have been busted masturbating on the computer too, to which her response was....."can I watch??"
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Registered: 01-21-2006
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 7:38pm
Tell him you'll get him started but you want him to finish it where you are watching very close so you can catch what ever comes out. Your fantasy will be fulfilled.
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Registered: 02-25-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 1:04am
Thanks everyone for the advice. I have been trying different things to give him the hint. So far...nothing! But the teasing and playing is fun anyway! So, I guess I'll just keep trying and one day he'll work up the nerve to let me watch him. What I really want to do is watch how he touches himself, so that I know better where his "sweet spots" are. That, and I just think it is so HOT!
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 8:33am
Hi Delilah,
Your request for your husband to masturbate in front of you is not risque at all. In my opinion, if you can have intercourse and give each other oral (which I feel is actually more intimate than intercourse) then there is no reason not to openly do what probably is being done in private in front of your spouse. Yes, some men are shy about that but I believe that if you tell him that his masturbating in front of you would be extremely special to you that he would do it. To me, a women masturbating in front of her partner is a way of saying that she trusts him so much that she will do even the most intimate and normally private things in front of him and for him. As such, it is an extreme turn on and I am sure your husband finds your sharing that with him to be highly erotic.
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Registered: 07-13-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:45am

Well, why not, when you guys "start" things in bed.....lay back and say, playfully.....I'm too tired to get you