Fantasies

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Fantasies
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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 2:05pm

So - Could any of you ladies give me some advice as to how I can encourage my wife in to sharing her fantasies with me? Is this possible or is it the natures of fantasies that they be private?

Maybe this belongs in the Fantasies section?




Edited 1/27/2010 4:20 pm ET by tripten

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: tripten
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 8:59am

tripten,


how can you be running out of time??


Talking never hurts, it always helps. Might not help today or even next week but if you keep talking it helps in the long run.


Plus you can't make someone comfortable, she has to feel it, you can help her by just being there and being open with her and talking to her as much as you can. keeping the lines open is what works!


Now one thing you need to know most people's "ME TIME" is just that "ME TIME" its not to be shared or even talked about with someone. And just because your wife doesn't say to you "I had 5 O's today while playing with myself" doesn't mean she isn't doing it. just means she thinks that time is all hers and not to be shared.


I have been married 30yrs next month, we don't talk about our "me time" with each other, we know we both do it but its something we keep to ourselfs, nothing wrong with that.


The big thing is you said it..."We really have a great marriage and talk about "almost" everything" and thats alot more than most have so be happy where you are!

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memeblue

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Registered: 09-06-2008
In reply to: tripten
Fri, 01-15-2010 - 9:00am

During a trip to Vegas two years ago, we watched a porn video together for the first/only time. It was tagged as a "Couples" video and was centered around the woman. It did arouse her and I asked what about it aroused her and she replied thinking of me doing those things to her. I didn't think to much about it since at that point in the video, it had pretty much been M/F doing things we do anyway. There was a FMF scene later but by that time, our interest had already turned to each other :)

I do think the erotica things might work. She doesn't buy erotica but I know she goes on Website where toys are sold and reads the user experience sections. I assume that gets her in the mood for her solo fun.

Thanks again all...

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Registered: 03-17-2009
In reply to: tripten
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 9:31pm

How long we continue the role play really varies.

 


 


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