A Few Suggestions Please!

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Registered: 11-20-2005
A Few Suggestions Please!
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 2:40pm
Okay guys, I need you to put your thinking caps on. DH's birthday is on Monday. He is always complaining that he never gets any quiet time at home sooo....On Sunday after I grab a couple hours sleep from working the night b4, I'm going to give him a new pair of cozy pj pants, a copy of his favourite book (he's loaned out like 5 copies and never got one back so he hasn't read it in a couple of years) and the remote and take the kids out for a few hours. While out we will pick up an icecream cake, his fav, to bring home and then pick him up to take him to dinner at his favourite restaurant. Any other suggestions? I know it isn't exciting and it isn't what I'd pick but this is right up his alley.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 2:55pm

Why not have a magical evening with your hubby? Do you have a sitter? If so then have a late evening out and enjoy each others company...get reaquainted. Where do you see yourself in five years? Where does he see himself in 5 years? I love going to the local martini bar with my hubby or the local quiet pub...we just talk. About somethings and nothings.

How about you seduce him when you get home? I was reading your other post about how distant he is and not wanting sex...that made me sad for you guys. I hope it is a little better. Let's see you could try chocolate boy paint or a nice can of whipped cream...howabout a set of satin sheets? I prefer flannel in the cold weather but...It's so sad that he is so introverted or doesn't care to be social. I think also it is sad he would even stay home and be by himself on his birthday. But that is just me. Were my suggestions helpful? I hope a little bit.
You could always try "it" in a different room with him...the stairs are fun!Carpeted are better though. :) Emily.

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 3:00pm
I'm with Emily-Try to seduce him. I know-high risk-but also high reward.
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Registered: 12-16-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 3:01pm

Hi Tr,
How about leaving him Post It notes in certain places... the bathroom mirror, the newspaper, the t.v. screen, etc etc. Tell him what you want to do to him as your bday gift to him.

I'm going to leave a post it note on the Suduko puzzle my DH does everyday when he comes home for lunch. I've also thought about writing, with lipstick, on the bathroom mirror.

Good luck... I hope he enjoys it.

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 3:42pm

I know you are working on the sitter thing Tanya, and might not have one, but how about this. Will there be anyone else there that could watch the kids for like 5 minutes? Or, is there someone that you could just have "stop by" the restaurant for just a few minutes and watch them? I have something cooking in my mind....hee-hee


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Registered: 11-20-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 4:05pm
Thanks Emily! You read my mind, I was going to give him silk sheets for Valentines Day. We don't normally celebrate it but I think it's important we acknowledge it this year. I know, I totally want a party for my birthday but never get it. I'll have to throw my own one time. I don't think he's much in the mood for any hanky panky so I'll just give him his quiet time.

 

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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 4:08pm
Are you kidding me? Haven't you read any of my other posts? I ALWAYS seduce him! He walks out of the kitchen to find me naked in the hall! He can't get in the tub without me crawling in with him. Lord help him if he puts on his reading glasses. I think he's afraid of me at this point. I don't think me seducing him would come as a real shock. LOL!

 

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Registered: 11-20-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 4:12pm
Does this involve bath room sex? Cause I think you know him well enough by now that you know he will never go for it.

 

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 4:12pm
Your husband sounds like my wife before she "found" her libido a little more than a year ago. I feel for you Tanya.


Edited 1/17/2006 4:14 pm ET by legaleagle59
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 5:00pm
OK, seeing as he doesn't sound interested in going out....how about an all over body massage? You could start with his head (for some reason I find that guys love that), and then massage some oil into his body, all the way down to his feet. Start with his back, then do the same on his front. Do it naked, sit on his butt and lean in real close lol. Gently brush his more sensitive spots by "accident" on occasion, and see if you get a rise out of him. You never know, it *might* work!

 


 


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Registered: 07-13-2005
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 5:11pm
No Tanya. I hope you know that I know you well enough to not suggest that!

What I was thinking about was actually sweet and romantic....

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