Fill my Needs.....

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Fill my Needs.....
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 6:43pm

This was posted below...


It really is kind of unrealistic how one person is supposed to fill all of our needs, especially when they just can't.


So is it unrealistic for one partner to fill all your needs??


Does your partner fill your needs??


Do you fill your partner's needs??


If they don't how to you get those needs filled??


So what do they do if you don't fill their needs??

memeblue



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memeblue

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 9:15pm

I guess it depends on what the statement is trying to say. If it means that you can never be satisfied with one person, then I think I would disagree. Maybe some people are just not built for monogamy and can't feel satisfied with just one person, but I don't think that's true for everyone.

Sure there will always be some differences in desires. There will betimes when one person is in the mood and the other isn't. There will almost always be at least some minor mismatches regarding what each partner finds arousing. I think compromise, masturbation, and fantasy are the best ways around those issues. I don't think it's necessary to bring in another person to solve those problems and feel satisfied. At least, that has never been the case for me.

EDIT: Okay, I just saw the post where this was mentioned, and it seems like the person who said it does not just mean sexually, but in all areas of a relationship. I still think a lot of what I have said applies. No relationship is ever going to be perfect, but that doesn't mean you can't be satisfied with one person in your life. For other areas of the relationship, friends and family can often help fill in the missing gaps.




Edited 8/30/2010 9:24 pm ET by rosewater99
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 8:52am

So is it unrealistic for one partner to fill all your needs?? I think it is. A relationship has to have some give and take. No one is perfect and able to be everything to someone. That doesn't mean that I condone cheating. That is something that each person needs to figure out on their own. And until you (not you personally, meme) have been there, you shouldn't



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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 12:13pm

I completely agree with rosewater :)

 

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 7:11pm

So is it unrealistic for one partner to fill all your needs??
It's both unrealistic and unfair to expect your partner to fill all your needs. That's why we have friends and family members. We have a lot of emotional needs that sometimes our partners can't fulfill. No one is perfect and can be the be all and end all to another person.

Does your partner fill your needs??
Most of them.

Do you fill your partner's needs??
Most of them.

If they don't how to you get those needs filled??
I go to my best friend, my friends here on the boards and to myself.

So what do they do if you don't fill their needs??
He goes to His family and His online friends.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 10:01pm

So is it unrealistic for one partner to fill all your needs??

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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 7:24pm

So is it unrealistic for one partner to fill all your needs?? First you have to differentiate between real needs and desires. I have real needs that need to be fulfilled and these include food, drink, shelter, companionship and some sexual relations. Desires on the other hand are things that may or may not improve my quality of life. They may be things I want to try, or things I want to add to my life. If my DW is not willing or able to fulfill those desires, I have to decide if the action of trying to fulfill those desires is worth the potential damage to my marriage.

Does your partner fill your needs?? My needs yes ...

Do you fill your partner's needs?? I do my best ...

If they don't how to you get those needs filled??

So what do they do if you don't fill their needs??