Good Sex???

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Good Sex???
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Tue, 06-23-2009 - 8:16am

what makes sex good??


does being experienced sexually make it good??


is it time together??


how sexually experienced were you and your DH/DW when you got together??


if ya weren't experienced the same what made it good?? is it better now??

memeblue

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Registered: 05-11-2003
In reply to: cl_memeu2
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:06pm

Boy, where to start? LOL

Good sex, for me, happens when I have a caring partner who is willing to explore new things, take time to enjoy the experience, wants to please me, lets me know what I am doing that feels good... basically not just going through the motions and is really interested in making each time the best it can be. Sometimes that's a quickie we both want, sometimes it's spending all day or night trying a 100 positions.

I was very sexually experienced when I met DH, so was he. I had more experience and had done a lot more things, but we connected immediately and previous experience wasn't too important. I don't know if I can say whether or not anyone needs previous sexual experience because that's not what my life has been like. I am confident that two people who have never been w/ anyone else can have a wonderful, fulfilling and exciting sex life together if that is what they both want. I'd just as soon erase many of my partners if I could, but being w/ them is part of who I am. Regrets get you nowhere and are a waste of time.

I think for some people, they might always wonder what other partners might have been like and other people cherish that they have only been with their one partner. Either way, what is important is to enjoy what you have now, look forward to the future and not dwell on the past or "what if" That's just my POV on life period, including sex. :D

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Registered: 02-26-2007
In reply to: cl_memeu2
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 6:55pm

Time definitely makes a difference. Both dh and I were very inexperienced when we got together. We have been married for 15 years, and I can say that sex really improved the last couple of years for a few reasons:


1)I started taking better care of myself and pampering myself. As a mom of 3 kids (will be 4 -- my EDD is Jan 22nd), it was easy to let myself go. Only in the last couple of years did I really decide to take care of myself: exercise more, get sexy lingerie, sexy bras/panties (to feel "sexy" under my clothes), and great scented bath/shower stuff. Feeling good goes a long way.


2)Going along with #1 I love to "get ready" for sex. Dh and I have to wait until the kids are asleep. So in the evening I take my time getting ready with a nice hot shower, moisturizer/ perfume, picking out what I'll wear (or not wear!) or letting him pick what he wants to see me in.


3) Communication - DH initiated a conversation with me asking if I was satisfied and what he could do to improve things. So DH and I both started thinking/reading more about how to improve our sex life on our own. He surprised me

Wendy

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