He's done - it's over ??????

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He's done - it's over ??????
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 2:53pm

Okay, ladies... be HONEST.


How many times.. on average... let's say per month... does THIS happen to you?


What do you do about it???

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 4:13pm
I can honestly say that it's never happened to me. My DH isn't always the initiator and I get frustrated sometimes because I feel like I want it more than he does. But, when it happens (1-2 X week, average), it's never over unless he knows I'm satisfied. He's really great that way.
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 5:04pm
Ditto what lov vols said. Never happens.

Judy 

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 9:55pm
Nope, can't say it happens here either.
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Registered: 09-22-2004
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 10:42pm
unfortunatly I can relate...it has happened a few times but normally I have been satisfied before he's done anyway.
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Registered: 04-09-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 12:32am

If I finish first, I always let my fingers do the walking to try and finish the job. Mostly, this is the only way DW gets off, and unless she is really tired, she usually does. She always seems happy with this, so I've assumed that this is better than being shut out...

Cheers,

Boddies

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 10:30am
*sigh* I can relate unfortunately....it's been happening more and more lately....First I've tried to be subtle....I've tried dropping more and more blantant hints....Not sure what I'm going to do next....It's frustrating and starting to really bother me that dh is becoming a "selfish" lover.
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Registered: 10-16-2004
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 12:27pm

Hi sweetmiss,

Do you think it is time to have a talk w/ him outside the bedroom? I know that's easier said than done, but that just doesn't seem fair. Has he been distracted w/ work lately? Something else going on?

Nani

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Registered: 06-12-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 2:56am

My Pookie and I have been married almost a year now and this has always been the case. It's not that he is selfish, it's just that he is overly quick at things even when he tries to slow down for my sake. I've also never been able to reach the 'O', so I've never really been satisfied ever. Sometimes things heat up and begin to feel good.. but sometimes they don't at all, I just go through the motions so he can finish. I'm the one who initiates things most of the time by the way, so it's not like he's coming on to me all the time to satisfy himself. He is embarrassed about coming on to me for sex most of the time actually.

I wish I could Orgasm, but I doubt it'll ever happen while we are having sex.. And I also am extremely sensitive when he uses his fingers on me. Whenever I start getting close to what could be an orgasm, I have to make him stop because it just gets to be way too much.. I am just so over sensitive.

I know that they say that many women don't have orgasms until later on (I'm only 22), but I just feel like I'll never get there.. I feel that if I can't do it now, that I'll never be able to. That makes me pretty sad. I just watch my Husband and see how good it makes him feel. I want that. I want that great feeling and the ability to be satisfied for once just like him.

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Registered: 01-25-2005
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:57am
In a previous relationship, this happened ALL the time. He would fall asleep and I would finish myself off.
The relationship that I have now with my husband is very satifying. He keeps going until I get off, if he happens to get there before me. Sometimes I won't have an orgasm and this is not for lack of trying, just sometimes I don't. This doesn't mean that the sex and intimacy is not satisfying.
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Registered: 04-08-2005
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 11:35am
Unfortuantely it usually is over for a while after I'm done. So I make sure to give DW lots o foreplay (manual and Oral) which she enjoys A LOT.

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