holding out..

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Registered: 08-10-2004
holding out..
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 1:59am
I was talking to my sister and she told me something i thought was strange but i thought i would post to see if i am in the minority. She has stopped giving her hubby oral for the last 5 months because the last time the did it he, as she put it, "let one slip" while she was down there. Ok. I died laughing at that part. That has happened to me before and my hubby said he was sorry and we laugh it off. She claims he did it on purpose to mess with her, didn't really seem sorry, etc. First i think the issue is minor and secondly i can't imagine holding out on oral that long as punishment? am i crazy or is she over reacting?
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Registered: 07-13-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:41am

Well, I don't know if she is overreacting or not - I guess it depends. Some women just HATE it when guys do that, do matter what the situation. And they do it just to get them riled up. And who knows how often the guy gets it anyway....


But, the bottom line - if you start using sex as a weapon, you're in for trouble. It just never a good idea.

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Registered: 05-02-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 9:27am
OMG..that is too LOL funny. Although it's not funny that he is being "punished" for something that every human on the planet is capable of. That's just not right. So what if he did it one purpose, it is certainly forgiveable.
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Registered: 11-15-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:09pm

Some1...

I was giving oral to my wife and she did the same thing. She was mortified...I thought it was funny.

People get relaxed and well....

Anyway, IMHO, they're married and we are all human. I would encourage her to let it go and move on.

Peace,
Scott.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:26pm
Hey Iscott, you were even closer to the source than she was!! LOL
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 12:28pm
I can understand her reluctance to be in the danger zone if her dh really did that on purpose...but at the same time, I can't imagine using sex as a punishment. I guess if that happened to me, I would forgive and forget. If it happened more than once and it was intentional, then I could see a reason to be upset and a need for discussion. I would encourage her to let go and enjoy sex to it's fullest.
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Registered: 06-14-2002
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 1:42pm

A few years ago, the same thing happened with my wife and I. She felt like I did it on purpose and that I tricked her. It took several months without me receiving any oral sex, before we talked about it, and resolved this issue.

CH