How did you know?

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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 11:20am
How did you know your spouse or partner was "the one?" Was there a single moment or a series of of moments... or just a combination of everything?
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 12:32pm
I originally met Master online in a chat room. I had learned the fine art of cybering and was doing quite a bit of it with men that I had chatted with. Most of it was the equvalent of a one night stand and while it could get exciting, the vast majority of the time it was completely boring and it got to the point where if I got one more message that said, "Wanna cyber?" I was gonna scream.

When Master and I originally met online it was awhile before W/we ventured into cyber land. Once W/we did it was always good, much better than with anyone else I'd been with online. Then one night it went way beyond good. Master and I connected in a way that I'd never felt with anyone before (not even with my first husband). W/we went silent for a long time afterwards and then He asked me, "Did you feel that?" I told Him that I had and I knew that He was the one. The connection W/we had wasn't just physical/sexual. I had thought that maybe it was all the time W/we been chatting with each O/other, but I'd had other online Doms that I'd spent a lot of time online with and I'd never felt that kind of connection with them that I had with Master. And that connection has never left U/us. W/we know what the O/other is thinking. W/we finish each O/other's sentences. That has never happened to me with anyone else.

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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 11:02pm

I was heading back to RHPS with a friend of mine Sat night (I had gone the first time w/ the guy I was dating Fri night). In the car on the way up I got this strange feeling and said to my friend. WATCH...I'm finally in a relationship...WATCH me meet someone who is completely my type.

Mark wasn't even going to go that night (long drive etc) but something told him "You need to go to RHPS tonight" He's told me those things don't happen often but when they do he's learned to follow them.

I was sitting in the audience and preshow was almost done when this person came flying down the aisle...he had on a 3 piece suit...a short top hat...and a long cloak. Caught my eye instantly.

During one of the responses I yelled out "I ALWAYS SWALLOW" lol I had caught his eye from the moment he came in but that hooked him completely.

I HAD to meet him. Saw him outside after the show and sidled my way up to him where we talked about favorite drinks. He was going to the diner and my friend was too so we sat together there...I don't remember what we talked about but he began to lightly play with my neck and I almost came on the spot. We exchanged numbers that night and there was no looking back.

We both anticipated this that night before we met and it was like we were coming home. There was none of the awkwardness and uncertainty that had plagued all my other relationships...he was just everything I had ever wanted...and I was everything he had ever wanted.

He's the only man I ever said "I love you" too

We met in October and I was living with him by the end of December.

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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 2:58pm
You have probably explained this, but what is RHPS?
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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 3:16pm

LMAO at MYSELF for assuming everyone knows that Acronym...HAHAHA

RHPS = Rocky Horror Picture Show

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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 6:10pm
Ah. Thanks.
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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 10:10pm
By the end of the night we met we were already finishing each others sentences and talking with out talking.
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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 2:03pm

I first met DH through his room mate in college. I still remember the first time I laid eyes on him, what he was wearing, where he was standing, who he was talking to. I didn't meet him until maybe 2 months later. I was extremely attracted to DH and his room mate. The 3 of us were immediate close friends, we spent most of our free time together and on the weekends I generally passed out in their room. His room mate made the first move, so we dated for about 9 months. He didn't return to school the next year, and DH and I resumed our usual pattern of drinking to excess every night. On the 3rd day we were back at school we had sex and did it every chance we could for a few weeks afterwards but kept it secret.

Then my BF came for a visit, and let's just say things were awkward. He and I had always had an extremely volatile relationship that sometimes turned physically abusive, as in we got into fights where we both threw punches. NOT healthy, and alcohol really made us act so much better. NOT. It was just insane. Anyway, I told him I didn't want to date anymore, and then we had the best time we had ever had together... calm, fun, hot sex.. no fighting. Obviously he was relieved not to have the weight of a "commitment" to a college girl friend on his shoulders (he's kind of what you'd call a slacker, LOL). The morning he left, DH and I took a walk and I was so confident and happy, and told him I was taking a break from dating, men, women, sex... we went back to his room and immediately tore into each other and I knew I had been totally BS'ing myself and I could not live w/o him. I went to Tiffany's one day and got like 100 pamphlets about engagement rings, diamonds, etc and stashed them in all his stuff. It was meant to be funny, but it also meant I was serious about marriage.

Looking back, I was way ahead of him in terms of being ready for marriage and life together, and although I know he loved me and wanted to marry me I think if it had been up to him, he would have waited a little longer. We had long talks about it, I could not "get" how he wanted to marry me but just not right away. To me, that meant he wasn't sure, and I was 100% sure he was the person for me.

At any rate, we're still here and still in love.

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 8:09pm

for us, it was really a series of things, I guess. We met via an online dating site and he took me to a very swanky restaurant (designed to impress). We took three hours to eat our dinner -- and talked and talked and talked. He asked me questions about myself and truly seemed interested in knowing about me. At the end of the date he walked me to my car and we kissed -- it was like fireworks went off!

We started dating and, with each date, he was sweet, kind and attentive. He let me set the pace at which our sexual relationship would evolve -- and, in the beginning, I actually stayed over with him many nights and he would respect the limits that I set.

When I would call him in the afternoons (I was on my way home from work and he was still working), he sounded happy to hear from me and took time out of his day to chat with me.

About 2 months in, I was really sick (stomach virus) and he told me to come over and he would take care of me -- and he did just that.

I finally said, "I love you" on our Valentine's weekend that I had planned at a Bed & breakfast. That was in Feb. 2005.

I married him in June 2006. He's shown me lots of love, affection and respect -- and he makes me feel like his own personal "cougar".

eileen