How do I give my DH a multiple orgasm?

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How do I give my DH a multiple orgasm?
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 8:15pm
Can men have multiple orgasms like women or is it just that they cum, reload and cum again?

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 5:19pm

You don't "give" your DH a multiple orgasm. A few men are apparently able to have a second or even a third orgasm with ejaculation with little or no "refractory" period. This ability declines with age and so for the vast majority of men the only way to have multiples is to control ejaculation and orgasm without ejaculation. Tantric yoga teaches these techniques and they are also part of Taoist sexual practices. They involve using breathing and contractions of the PC muscles ( "male Kegels" ) to stop ejaculation at the moment of orgasm. A good book for learning about these Taoist practices is: "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams. This book relates the techniques to Taoist energy channeling practices which are really complicated, but the basic ejaculation control techniques work. They are actually easier for men as they get older. I'm 53, and I've been doing them for almost two years with my wife. I can frequently manage 2 or 3 orgasms in a session and occasionally as many as 6. Since I don't ejaculate( only every 4-5 days), I can even manage 2 or 3 sessions a day. My wife is multi-orgasmic during IC so we often have several orgasms together.

I have heard of a technique during fellatio where the woman can use her thumb on the penis to stop the ejaculation and enable the man to have multiples, but I don't orgasm easily from oral so we have never explored this.
taoistnovice

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 10:24am
Welcome to the board jacobiteone!! Thanks for the advice!

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 8:57am

I think it is possable

If I keep stroking with either manual stimulation or while inside my love the first time around I rarely ever go fully flacid and can C*m again in 10 minuites sometimes less, the most we managed was 4 times in just over 2 hours.

cheers Jacobiteone


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Registered: 03-11-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 4:10am
I have a second orgasm about half the time when my wife and I have intercourse. It comes immediately after the first and is much more intense. Here is my technique. During intercourse, when I just begin to have an orgasm, I stop thrusting for a few seconds and then resume thrusting. My first orgasms continues and then I have a second more intense orgasm. I found this technique while masterbating. When I started to cum, I stopped stroking and then began again. Your DH will need to practice to get the timing right. Maybe you could see if you could help him with the timing by giving him a handjob. The timing is critical. It is so good that it is worth the practice. I have not had a second orgasm when my wife gives me a blowjob-probably because she just keeps sucking when I start to cum.
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:54am

>>Tantric classes, now there's a thought.

But a pricey one, and hardly a 'quick-fix' answer.

I'm wondering if this is one of those Mars/Venus things, where the male 'wiring' wants an extended buildup to a big climax, and the woman is more interested in 'ups and downs'. Multiple O's for guys are possible, especially when we're younger (insert teenage-male cliche here), but a long buildup and a KABOOM! feels better. Just a thought...

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 8:49am
Tantric classes, now there's a thought.

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 8:33am

Apparently the few men that have gotten heavily into tantra can disconnect orgasm from ejaculation and have multiple O's before allowing themselves to release at some point. For most of us, though, it's all about how long we can stay on the edge without going over, and the 'recharge' time gets longer as we age. I know that when I've had a particularly big orgasm it takes me longer to recover, which just means DW and I can play longer without the urge for the 'short strokes' and emptying myself into her body.

Your choices are (a) A quickie to 'take the edge off' then a slow buildup for the second round or (b) Put him on his back and see how long you can string him out before letting him go or (c) the two of you sign up for tantric classes...

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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 10:02pm
I was just talking to my bestfriend about this very thing yesterday and niether of us knew the answer. I am anxious to find out.