how do you keep it spicey?

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Registered: 08-21-2007
how do you keep it spicey?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 3:01pm

Just wondering what you all do to keep your love lives interesting and keep your spouses excited about your relationships.

 

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Registered: 12-03-2011
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 12:01am

Well, my birthday is coming up and so I would really like a

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Registered: 03-30-2006
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 1:25pm
I would get jealous of my husband watching porn when i wasn't around. I found out that he watched girls getting their kicks off by themselves. Then he told me to be an adult about it. In some ways I don't like that he sees other women naked. Yeah its on the internet and not real life,but my thing was we r married and he should only see me naked. Needless to say I had to get over him watching porn. So what did I do. I started sending him naughty pics on his phone. I also did a video of just me getting my kicks off. I was suprised when he told me that there was no sound or a bad angle on the movie. He said he liked it,just seemed like he wanted a better tape. I don't want him to look at girls anymore by themselves. So i hope now he will look at my pics or the video to get excited. I also told him I would do more videos for him that have sound so he can hear me. When i asked him about porn he said it was a means to an end. We r now watching it together. Just want to make him happy
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Registered: 08-28-2007
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 2:16am

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Registered: 08-24-2011
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 1:38am

My husband works nights and thus his nights begin at 6pm until about 1-2am. When I get home from work he's getting ready to leave so I quickly wash my lower half of my body and as he's coming into the bedroom, just be bent over like as if I'm looking for something on the ground. He gets a thrill out of it and so do I. I like to get him off before he leaves for the night.

Sometimes when I'm still awake and he's lucky enough to finish up work earlier than most days, I put on a nice nighty and fall asleep with no blankets and my back to the bedroom doorway. When he comes in he gets surprised because I hardly put these nighty's on and guess what happens next? :)

If we're out somewhere, I like to steal a grope here/there. I also flash him as he's driving at times or kiss him passionately.

All these things I don't do all the time, but I do try to get something in frequently once or twice a week, do something spontaneous.

A few weeks ago, I was awoken with him just petting my face and rubbing my arms at 3:30am so guess what? He got a treat with midnight love.

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Registered: 01-30-2011
Sun, 08-14-2011 - 1:58pm
I work in a school so no at work sex for us. I would love to get it on with him in one of the trailers at his job, but ppl are constantly coming and going all hours of the day and night.

We love sexting too. I love it when I'm making dinner or washing dishes and he comes up behind me and starts playing with my butt and earlobes. He gets super turned on when I walk around with pigtails, so sometimes I come to bed wearing them or will have them in and be sitting on the couch in something skimpy when he comes in from work.

Oh and I also have a bullet mini (cordless with the remote). He loves when I hand him the remote. The Mr. actually gave it to me at a gift, but you can probably pick it up at any sex toy shop online. He also likes it when I take it and put it under his balls, while giving him a hand job or a BJ.
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Registered: 08-14-2011
Sun, 08-14-2011 - 12:36pm

take him to lunch.. a quickie at lunch time is wonderful

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Registered: 08-10-2011
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 10:40am

We use the WeVibe II - couples vibe. However, I have used it solo on myself. It is corded to charge but it is cordless to use.

soap.com has them and maybe other adult places.

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Registered: 08-08-2011
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 12:54pm

It make it spicy for her, when:
-We have surprise sex. She likes it if I approach her from behind when she work something in kitchen or bathroom and just start a quickie. She likes to see that I can't wait no more.
-We have out of the bedroom sex.
-We talk about sex (just like me).
-I'm preparing her whole day or two before with courting and being nice and mildly erotic to her
-we watch romantic (not porn) movies
-she feel me gentle in the beginning and strong and full force at the end of lovemaking

It make it spicy for me when:
- She shave to zero or ask me to shave her
- she give me joy present - we call it that way, when she gives me oral or hand with no foreplay or long after procedures - just a small joy gift.
- I can see her fully during lovemaking
- I can massage her (also erotically)
- our agreed sex day is coming. We don't leave our love life to wait for both of us being rested, kids are away, dog away, weather fine, bills payed... We have tried and found it very good & beneficial to have sex at least on a x-th day from our last time having sex. It may look strange to someone or too organized, but we don't give it away anymore now when we tried it.

BUT

As with food, where hunger is best spice, it is also with sex. Love is a thing which makes sex full and excellent and spicy. At least for us. When we feel each other real close and want to give the best possible joy to each other, then magic sex happen.
Firm inner connection makes sex most spicy for me and my wife. We try to talk regularly about anything what's going on with me or her. What makes me/her worried, sad, happy, tired, sick... whatever. Not just regarding sex, about anything in life - including sex. It took some time and effort to start with this kind of explaining my internal things to her, but after some time (years) it goes just fine.



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Registered: 08-08-2011
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 3:28pm

Read "FOREPLAY - the real focus of Great Sex!" & "Sex In The Golden Years - the best sex ever!" at Amazon and Amazon Kindle books by Othniel Seiden, MD.

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Registered: 08-08-2011
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 2:43pm
waste of time.

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