How long and what are you doing?

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Registered: 09-09-2009
How long and what are you doing?
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Tue, 09-22-2009 - 9:56am

Hello everyone.


I hope I am posting in the right place.

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Registered: 04-07-2006
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 11:02am
Welcome to the board, Margarita.

For one thing, I would advise using caution about a lot of things you read on the internet. Don't forget that not much of what is stated can be checked out as being accurate or not.

Does it really matter, if what you and your husband are doing is satisfying to both of you? If things have improved so that you are having satisfactory sex with your husband, then that is what works for you. There isn't a norm. If your sessions last 20 minutes, I'm sure there are people out there who would love to have it last that long.

I'm Nenu, co-cl here along with Meme, welcome.




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Registered: 09-09-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 8:40pm
Thank you nenuphar for your response.
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Registered: 08-11-2006
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 11:08pm

I agree with nenu.

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Wed, 09-23-2009 - 5:32am
I do not like myself to be limited in time like it always happens in the morning when we have only 10-15 minutes maximum as we have to go to work. At the same time it is when we are both rested so with us it is also mostly short in time but then when we are on holidays we are in bed all the time. We try to get away on all holidays (even short ones just 3 days) somewhere so that we could stay in bed in the hotel. Then it lasts and lasts and in the evening when we go out for dinner my legs are shaking. But of course it all depends on the desire, you can only stay in bed for sex the whole day if you have a desire which my Dh always has when he is on holidays and when he has it I have it too (it is impossible not to have it with all his caresses, kisses and ect). It can be tiring though because he got do not know where the idea that one orgasm is nothing for me and always wants me to have at least 3. Well, sometimes it is easy to do but when it is every day I really have to switch on all my imagination to please him. In the end I am happy of course with the result and the process but I do not know why it seems he is even happier when I cum than he himself. if I do not scream enough (which is not always an indicator of was it good or not) he might want to go for a better one. Well, I cannot pretend screaming loud on purpose and why should I in the hotel for instance. Men are strange but fascinating as well. The post of textnht made me want sex right now. I have to wait till the evening though, perhaps I will read his mail again before going to bed (thanks textnght!)
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Registered: 09-09-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 12:52pm

Thanks again to all.


As was mentintioned, communication and trying different things is what I am trying to work on with DH right now.

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 11:02pm

Yep, communication is the key.

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Thu, 09-24-2009 - 8:25am

Txknight, you said it right.

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 10:11pm

I learned that phrase in a speech class I took once.

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Fri, 09-25-2009 - 3:53am

Hi there!

Our sessions can really vary, but the majority are on the long-ish side. I usually require a good amount of foreplay to get turned on enough for IC, and it's fun to play around naked, anyway :D

We usually kiss for a while, and DH will often give me a full body massage (if he's not too excited, this can last 5-10 minutes and involve lotion! Yum!). The massages usually lead to us playing with each other, getting good and worked up for IC. If we don't start out with a massage, it can take a bit longer, so we will kiss, hug, pet for a good 20 minutes or so, then work our way to the good stuff. DH is so awesome, he always helps me orgasm first, since I take (significantly) longer to orgasm. Then we will finish, or start IC so he can orgasm too. This has been known to take us 2 or more hours from start to finish, but usually takes around 30-60 minutes. We both love to take our time, and have never really enjoyed "quickies". If it's not mutually satisfying, neither of us enjoy it much. We almost never go for a second round, because the first one takes so long, and is so physically draining!

Because of this, we usually have more sex on the weekends (darn time constraints!) and I know that he masturbates occasionally throughout the week, and sometimes I do, also. A side note: I am 24 and just this year was able to achieve orgasm through masturbation, and it has really helped increase my libido!

Sometimes we mix it up, and do different things for foreplay (occasionally we do some light role-playing, and other times I like dh to tie me up (hands only) and do some bondage-type fun, but most of the time it's just lots of cuddling, kissing, stroking, etc. A lot of times we turn on a tv show and make out on commercials, till we can't stand it anymore lol.

I don't think there is a "wrong" way to have sex, if you are satisfied and happy when you're done. Everyone is different, and has their own style.

Very interesting thread!