How many times a week do you have sex?

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Registered: 08-02-2004
How many times a week do you have sex?
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Mon, 03-18-2013 - 1:55pm

A second question is how often would you rather have sex?  In my case, we have sex once a week, and I'd rather be having sex about 3 x a week.  I'm in my fifties as is my wife.  She doesn't have the sex drive I have though.  IT's frustrating.  Even though, we've talked about it, she doesn't really care.  

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Registered: 03-24-2013
Sun, 03-24-2013 - 9:14am

My wife and I would be in a negative number if I had to calculate by the week and would probably be easier to keep score by the year, which may reach a whopping 3-4. Now the issue that I have is only recently diagnosed as a panic and anxiety disorder which seems to have affected me in a complete disinterest in sex. The disinterest is compounded by our constant arguments which makes me even less inclined to initiate sex. The good news is that I am seeing a therapist. The bad news is that I'm more interested in him than her. 

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Registered: 06-10-2012
Wed, 03-20-2013 - 8:37pm

Hey Manunit. Have you thought of seeing a doctor about her hormone levels? Sometimes nearing/after menopause, disturbances in hormone levels cause a decreased sex drive. DH and I are in our thirties and we have sex 5-7x a week, but you never know what happens as time goes by!