Husband likes to wesr lingerie

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Registered: 11-09-2013
Husband likes to wesr lingerie
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Mon, 08-11-2014 - 10:42am

I just found out that my husband has a thing about wearing lingerie when we make love. I was taken by surprised when he asked me what I thought about it. I'm not sure how I feel, I know it's probably harmless, and it does seem to increase his sexual arousal. I guess I'm asking, should I be concerned, or just enjoy his increased activity?

JoAnn


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Registered: 01-23-2013
Mon, 08-11-2014 - 12:54pm

In my opinion it is weird but I have heard of it before. I wouldn't be alarmed. I think you should just enjoy it and see where it leads.

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Registered: 11-18-2011
Mon, 08-11-2014 - 2:29pm
Agreed Enjoy it
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Registered: 08-13-2014
Wed, 08-13-2014 - 4:43pm

Every guy has his thing.  I like my s.o. to wear her heels in bed.  Some guys like lingerie, hosiery.  Some like to be dominated, etc. etc.  Maybe turn it up a notch and ask him to tell you more about the thrill he gets from wearing lingerie and what you could do to heighten the thrill.  My psychological guess is that somewhere in his past he was turned on by watching girl on girl and this is the way it is manifesting itself.  

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Registered: 11-09-2013
Fri, 08-15-2014 - 3:07pm

Thanks for your reply Roger. I'm not sure if that's what got him started or not, but I don't want to ask him. As it is, no one is getting hurt, and as I said, our love making seems to have picked up steam. For awhile it seemed like we were starting to lag..perhaps losing a bit of interest. Maybe we are having a lesbian relationship!! <smile>

JoAnn

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Tue, 09-02-2014 - 10:08am

Each person will have their own fantasize. It is nothing wrong with him if he likes lingerie & it is a secret between only both of you. So just enjoy the sex with him.

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Registered: 01-22-2008
Tue, 10-07-2014 - 7:22am

Enjoy it.  One of my ex gf introduced me wearing women lingerie while making love.

Born to Live.

 

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 10-28-2014 - 1:54pm

I say enjoy it!



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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 10-28-2014 - 1:55pm

CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HI.

Wink



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Registered: 04-14-2008
Tue, 11-18-2014 - 9:32am

sounds like a bit of a red flag to me.  if you do a little research on cross dressing and men who want to wear women's clothing there are  clear homosexual implications.  If that is okay with you, and I am not being judgement, than him wearing lingerie is fine.  If your husband have homosexual fantasies, or fantasies about being a women, would bother you as it would me then you have a problem.

Karin W
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Registered: 05-22-2003
Fri, 11-21-2014 - 1:59pm

Karin, I respectfully disagree.  I'm not sure what sources you were researching, but the data actually suggests quite the opposite - most men who enjoy crossdressing are straight.  Yes, there are gay and bi-sexual males who enjoy this, but they are in the minority.  I can also speak first hand to suppor that data - I'm one who crossdresses on occasion and am very straight.