husband watches porn during sex

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 11:58am

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 1:29pm

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I think you really need to have a serious talk with him. I can say if anyone ever did that to me, I wouldn't have sex with them. Hell, I might not even stay with him. How are things outside the bedroom? Why does he think he needs porn in order to get excited? Has he told you what he'd like to do to make your sex life better? Is there any reasons why you don't initiate? Do you have any fantasies that you'd like to act out?




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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 2:14pm

I can understand watching porn on occasion. Master and I will sometimes watch porn together before W/we have sex. W/we have a stack of DVDs, but W/we have never watched a movie all the way through. Once W/we start having sex, O/our focus is on one another and not on the movie. W/we'll sometimes have the movie running, but W/we don't keep watching it while W/we are having sex.


I agree with nhgal. I would most likely leave a man who couldn't have sex with me without including porn. I certainly would not have sex with him. That would make me feel useless. If he needs his porn so much, then what am I there for? He could use his hands on himself or have a blowup doll. It would make me feel that he didn't want me. He wants what he sees on the screen.


I wouldn't definitely have a long, serious talk with him about this. And please do it now before the anger and resentments start to build up and you pass the point of no return.

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 2:27pm

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I agree with BL and Sister....if my man did that ALL the time then I wouldnt like it either! sit down and have a long talk with him. maybe even get him to get check up with his doc!

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Tue, 01-20-2009 - 4:00pm

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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 4:24am

Hi there,

Being diabetic can have a huge impact on his libido. But since he masturbates to porn, and uses it during sex, well I really don't think there is anything terribly wrong with his libido, but there is definitely something wrong with his attitude towards sex! I agree with the others - if my man couldn't have sex with me without including porn, there would be some serious trouble!

 


 


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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 10:52am

My husband does not masturbate. He tells me to get him ready, meaning get hard and then we will have sex. I told him last night that no more porn movies while we have sex and he said said ok.......and then he said I told you I could get it up without movies but it's just easier.

I'm not going to allow this anymore. For over 3 years we did this because we were trying to have a baby and I didn't care how he did the deed, I just wanted to get pregnant. I finally got pregnant after 3 years and now our son is 6 months old.

My husband feels it's up to me to get his tool started.........our sex life is really boring.

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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 11:25am
DW and I occasionally watch porn together. It usually ends up that we get turned on then we are to busy having sex to watch the movie. If he is having issues getting it up and needs porn to do it then thats not right. Since he seems to check out other than the diabeties, then perhapse he needs to have some counseling. This needs to be addressed and the sooner the better.



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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 12:19pm

My husband feels it's up to me to get his tool started.........our sex life is really boring. <<<

Who should get it started then? He should just spring into action? You start him up, he starts you up, that's what the foreplay is for.

Do you know what would make it less boring? Can you say so, does he take suggestions? Whips & chains, spankings & names? Do you get oral sex, do you give it? Is it always in the same room, same time of night? Act out the porn?

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I'm not going to allow this anymore. For over 3 years we did this because we were trying to have a baby and I didn't care how he did the deed, I just wanted to get pregnant. I finally got pregnant after 3 years and now our son is 6 months old. <<<

This sounds as one sided as him not doing anything sexually for you. Allow?

You didn't give any suggestions, you LET him have porn on, you let him set the pace of sex. Now your expectations have changed & he's still wrong, when you gave him no direction in the first place. And he has penis issues.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 11:13pm
So you get him ready........how does he get you ready?

 


 


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Thu, 01-22-2009 - 5:22am
We always begin our sex activities with mutual masturbation while watching a sex DVD. In addition to mutual masturbation we do oral, toys, prostate massage and fantasizing. We especially like to watch group sex DVD'S and fantasize that we are part of the group. DW especially likes to watch multiple penises, men masturbating and cum shots. She gets so hot.
We love to watch sex while I have my penis in her. We rarely make it through a complete scene.

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