I Need Answers

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Registered: 09-27-2011
I Need Answers
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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 10:51pm

HI everybody,

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 10-06-2011 - 2:15am
Just remember that there are things that you wouldn't want to do either. If your husband asks for one of those things, you would reject him too. But you're not rejecting him at all, just that particular sex act. Try to remember that when you put yourself out there. If he does react unfavourably, he's not rejecting you, just that particular sex act and maybe even then he's only rejecting you at this particular time.

Just because he likes a lot of vanilla sex don't think that he's vanilla all the way through. He might be the one that surprises you.
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 09-30-2011 - 7:36am

Let us know how it goes. Who knows, he could feel the same way and he too could also be nervous about saying anything for fear that you'd think he was weird.



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Registered: 09-27-2011
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 9:17pm
Thank you for those suggestions. My fear is that I'll put myself out there, and he'll reject me, but there is no harm in trying. I like your jar idea especially, and he might be open to that, so thank you again. :-)
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 7:44am

Have you tried talking to him about this? Telling him that you want to try other things? What other things do you want to try? How about asking him if he has any fantasies? Or maybe the two of you can each write a list of 5 things you want to try. Swap lists and discuss them. Once you both agree on the ones to try, cut the paper and put in a jar. Once a week, pull one out and act on it.



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