I should be glad

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2007
I should be glad
8
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 10:52am

That dh can't keep his hands off me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2007
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 10:55am
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 11:30am

Have you always been like this? Has he seen a dr for his problems? If he were to stop drinking would that help you?

How about starting back up like you were 36 years ago? Bring back some of the fun the two of you used to have.



28999825.jpg picture by nhgal2006

Avatar for memeu2
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-1999
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 11:41am

Hello and welcome to SMS!

to start with YES drinking doesn't help a man's erection and lasting time is longer. Also I think your DH needs to see his doc for a full check up as well. The other thing is when he masterbates it doesn't help him when he is with you.

For you I think ya need to get back that "loving feeling" try doing 'dates' again, talk openly about how your feeling and that you want to be what you were. You can be what you were just takes work on BOTH of you!

big thing for you know...your not alone in this! there are many women and men out there that are in the same place as you! hang in there!

memeu siggy 4-08

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2007
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 2:03pm

Yes, I have mostly been like this like I said, but not this bad.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2007
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 11:22pm
"For you I think ya need to get back that "loving feeling" try doing 'dates' again, talk openly about how your feeling and that you want to be what you were. You can be what you were just takes work on BOTH of you!"

Excuse me, but people are failing to see that he's an alcoholic! It's like giving advice on how to get a tingly feeling back with someone whose a meth addict! The cart is getting waaaaaay before the horse here.

I'm sorry Cat, but stop focusing on the sex issue, that is really the least of your problems here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2009
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 11:41pm
First thank you for sharing, it was probably a difficult thing to do, especially talking about things so personally about you and your husband.

Like the ladies mentioned above, it sounds like the drinking is a problem, but I would think about seeing a marriage counselor to work on whatever deeper issues are at work in your marriage, whether it's behavioral, emotional, cognitive and/or spiritual. It will be a lot of work, especially with the drinking issue at hand. But don't give up either, a lot of people on here are behind you
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 11-09-2010 - 9:31am

I don't think anyone is overlooking that. But in order for him to want help with that, he first needs to admit that he has a problem. That's not something she can do for him.



28999825.jpg picture by nhgal2006

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2007
Tue, 11-09-2010 - 12:46pm

Yes, I completely agree.