I want an orgasm!!! hahaha!

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Registered: 10-17-2005
I want an orgasm!!! hahaha!
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:54pm
hey everyone! Okay, I hope this doesn't get too graphic lol! Here's the thing, on our honeymoon, I got on top and it was the first time I had orgasmed while we were having sex. It happened a couple times on our honeymoon and a couple times after, but not recently. I know I COULD, but it's hard and takes FOREVER, not to mention it starts hurting my legs! haha! But other than that, I have never orgasmed while we are having sex. Oral is a surefire way to get me to cum! But after he cums, we usually just end up getting me to cum with our hands. I know my husband feels like he is doing something wrong, and so do I! And I know lots of women don't orgasm by sex alone, but I don't want to just say I'm one of them and give up! So do any of you have any tips for me?! I know all about the g-spot, and I have another graphic question! My husband's penis curves a little bit to his left, so I was wondering if we tried it with me laying on my side so that the tip of his thing is touching my g-spot more, would that work?! Our first anniversary is next week!!! And it would be awesome to have some stuff to try!! Thanks!
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Registered: 10-17-2005
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:03pm

I also can only orgasm on top....as you may have read my "1 way to orgasm" post. I also realized that if I try to hard & am obsessed with thinking "I hope I can orgasm" my legs & abs hurt a lot or cramp up too. I am then stressed & frustrated so it takes longer fianlly I give up & say honey it's your turn!

Is he turning you on with foreplay? I know the more turned on down there I am, the better & faster I orgasm. I understand completly I experience the same even now. I need to also have my head clear of any lingering unresolved issues or fights with my husband. It also helps at times if he says sexy words to me....that sometimes gets me going if I am having a hard time as you do.

whatcha think?

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Registered: 10-17-2005
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:13pm
I can't state it enough..... he definatly he needs to give you some type of foreplay that will get you going passionate kisses or lightly biting & kissing behind your neck near your shoulder. We have a lot of nerve endings there. I KNOW personally! HE HE
It can take a woman 10 to 20 mintues to increase that blood flow where its a few seconds for guys. That always helps. Then again clear your mind. Ask him to speak with you a bit naked so that you can feel open to talk to him to share with him 1 on 1. You will feel closer to him & are clear minded ready to go! We women love to feel that emotional closeness to our spouses. Thats a major turn on in itself for me! Let me know how it goes.