i want sex more than my husband

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Registered: 04-25-2005
i want sex more than my husband
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 9:05pm
Has any woman out there actually had there husband withhold sex? i have been begging for it for the last five days. but he is mad at me about something (little stuff, nothing major), and won't have sex with me. i can't take it anymore! if it were up to me, we would have sex every other day. with him, he would be happy with once a week or less.

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 9:21pm

Welcome to the board!!


I am sorry this is happening in your life!!!


I do not have any experience with this. My physical attraction to my DH is an interesting thing: I want my DH even when I am angry with him and vice versus.


What it is that he is mad about and does he do this often?



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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 10:24pm

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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 10:57pm
He sounds like a moody guy who uses withholding of sex as a 'control' over you when he doesn't like little things that you might do. This is not a healthy thing for a successful marriage.
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 8:53am

I've never been in that situation, Dh and I don't hold grudges towards each other

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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 10:39am

Not in my marriage.

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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 9:21pm
oh, he was upset because i dont' remember him telling me i needed to put our daughter on the bus one morning (normally he puts her on the bus because i go to work early, and i pick her up from daycare). well, he had to go out of town for work and needed me to do his job and put her on the bus. i found out about it the night before. he claims he told me weeks ago. so he is mad that i was mad. does that make sense? anyway, i still wanted sex, but he wouldnt' go near me or talk to me for four days!
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 9:24pm
Is it possible that he uses those little arguments as his reason not to have sex but they are just a cover for some bigger issue?


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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 10:22pm

This isn't going to sound very supportive, but I feel compelled to say it as it might be contributing to the problems between the two of you.


<<well, he had to go out of town for work and needed me to do his job and put her on the bus. >>


In marriage and parenting there are no "her jobs" and "his jobs". She is your daughter too, and you shouldn't feel it is doing his job to put your own daughter on the school bus.


That said, I can understand you being frustrated that you had such short notice, and maybe that's all there was, but your wording in the sentence above implies a much deeper resentment.


And that too said, his reaction of withholding sex is wrong. Sex should not be used as punishment, nor imo, as reward.



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Registered: 02-04-2005
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 10:09pm
He needs to read some of my posts! My wife wants it less than once a week and shes not even mad at me! ;)
He needs to thank his lucky stars he has a wife that wants it at all as alot of married men are in my shoes and begging for it!!!
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Registered: 03-20-2005
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 8:47pm
Hey girl, my husband and i went from once 2 to 3 times a week to once a month!! I'm dying!

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