A little advice please?

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Registered: 09-28-2005
A little advice please?
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 3:26pm

I am getting married in 8 months to a great guy who I have been with for 5 years. The problem is that we have a poor sex life. Before we moved in together 4 months ago we used to only see each other and have sex every other weekend, we were looking foward to living together for more intimacy but that has not happened. I feel like we have been married for 50 years already. I am not sure why we don't have sex often,we just don't and it seems not to bother either of us that much right now. I am afraid in the future it might. Other than our sex, we have a great relationship, we are great friends and treat each other with respect. Is sex important enough to stop our plans of marriage until something changes?
What do you all think?

Vicki

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 3:38pm

"Is sex important enough to stop our plans of marriage until something changes?"


Is it? That's for YOU to answer. The best way to overcome these types of problems is to talk about them with your DF. Outside the bedroom is probably best as well.


Have their been changes outside of your sex life? New job? New stresses? How is your libido? His? DO you just not have time?


Since you only saw each other on weekends before, in actuality those were sort of planned sex nights, snice you didn't see each other, you both expected you'd have sex. Now that you live together, you don't have that. Maybe you need to have some planned "dates".

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 5:03pm

Since lack of sex doesn't bother either one of you right now, then there is not a problem.

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