a little kwerk

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Registered: 11-19-2005
a little kwerk
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 3:04am
Lets see if i can even start this. I'm new to this so please be patient with me. My hubby and i have been married for only a short 5 months. This is both our second marriages. Most of the time things are wonderful, but of course after the "I DO" reality sets in and you realize that maybe you didn't quite know everything you would have liked to, or in my case need to know. We dated for a year before we had gotten married. I was very satisfied with our sex life. And still we do have a good one. But i'm a girl that likes a little adventure in the bedroom, or the bathroom or well heck anywhere, but of course that only happens when my parents have the kids for a weekend!!! I have a very HIGH libido, and his is well up there, just not as active as mine. He also has no want to try new things. He really didn't have that advantage as i did from past relationships. Pretty boring for him back then. Now he acts like i'm absolutally crazy when i bring up the idea of something new. Am i like the only girl that Loves creativity with sex? cz he sure acts like i am. I don't try to presure him or anything but its like oh come on how can you be happy with 3 positions your whole entire life? Trust me it is driving me insane. Please tell me that someone else knows how i feel. Cuz it really stinks. So needless to say he sees it as a KWERK and it drives him nuts too. HELP!!!
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 9:39am

No, you're not the only woman who is adventurous with sex.

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Registered: 11-17-2005
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 2:23pm

I completely agree with Tish. Communication is the key, which we didn't figure out until I was so frustrated that I blew up. It was like we were going through the motions. After some really intense talking about what each other liked, disliked, would be willing to try and so on, our sex life has greatly improved. Also, I think we were both a little shy or perhaps embarassed to ask for something different, afraid that whatever was asked might sound weird or strange. Communication has worked wonders for our relationship and I highly recommend that you try and talk with him about your feelings.

Just a side note too, my DH is not the type to talk about anything, especially sex. It took many, many times talking with him before he felt comfortable talking about it. I guess it comes from how we were both raised, ya know, the "you don't talk about sex!" BTW, my DH and I are still waiting for our parents to have the "sex" talk with us! We often laugh about how we managed to have 2 kids without it!

I hope it works out for you, I know how frustrating it can be.

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