love sex, not cleanup

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Registered: 11-01-2004
love sex, not cleanup
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Mon, 11-14-2005 - 3:15pm
ugh I LOVE sex but I hate cleanup. Its so unromantic. I wish we could just lay there aftewards in eachothers arms and not have to get up and clean up.
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Registered: 11-02-2005
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 3:22pm
Why do you HAVE to get up and clean up? I hope I'm not missing something.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 3:41pm
Yep, I have to ask the same question as Curiousdon.
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Registered: 10-17-2005
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 4:15pm

Do what we do.......
1)put down an extra sheet on your bed that you can lay on so you can grab that & wipe off the semen or vaginal juices on.
2)lay a towel next to you
3)box of personal wipes that you can clean up yourself in bed if you can't just lay there together enjoying the aftermath of having your oragasms....Ahhhhhh!
4) If you or your man can't just lay there & need to clean up....go shower together...that's always romantic!

~ we run around this world enough as it is.......lay there & let your bodies RELAX!
~ we need to enjoy that intimacy that is there after the sex is over too!

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 4:58pm
I can't answer for misswhynot, but I have to get up afterwards so I can (ahem) urinate. I am a sufferer of chronic bladder infections - if I don't get up to go potty, its almost guaranteed that I'll get an infection. VERY unromantic! LOL! But, its such a habit now, we're used to it. I get up, go to the bathroom, come back and snuggle up just like we were before I got up. No biggie.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 9:39pm

1st welcome to SMS! very happy to have you here!


Well I also have to go potty right afterwards! LOL! I can't help it!! But we make a game of it! we are always losing article of clothing and find them later! LOL! We run to clean up and then run back to bed! LOL! we always hug or touch each other as we go to the bathroom to clean up. I walk behind him to the potty and have to put my hands on his butt! and then while I clean up he has to grab my breast or butt as he walks back to the bedroom. Its fun!!


Early in our lifes we had little bathrooms and it was fun to see who would be 1st in and last out! LOL! It just wasn't something we made a big deal of.


I think if you "think" its unromantic then it will be! make it romantic and it will be!


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All sex should be called LovePlay, From the first kiss until the final embrace during after glow. It all part of one big sexual banquet, when you enjoy the banquet the appetizer is just as important and enjoyable as the main course. Michael Castleman.


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 1:38pm

We have a little ritual also.

Our bedroom is upstairs, bath is downstairs.

I'm the one who always has to run and pee so on the trip back up I bring a snack, a glass of water and a warm wash cloth for him to clean up, okay, for me to use to clean him up.

The cleanup is as romantic or unromantic as you make it.

 

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Registered: 11-15-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 8:08pm

Hi! I usually just read and never really post, however this discussion is something that I totally understand. I guess it is something that I thought was not normally, but I am a "squirter". No laughing. But when I reach climax I squirt. Not only that my kegals will actually push him out when I get excited and this makes mess on the sheets.

So, we bought a plastic cover to put down first on the bed and a sheet over top. This makes the bed clean up easy. HOwever we are messy, but we do lay there a bit and breathe, laugh, talk whatever for about 5 minutes. Then get up, gather the sheet and cover and throw in the corner to be washed in the morning.

We get a shower together (quick shower as it is normally late now), but the weird thing is we don't talk during this time. It is kind of cool. We give love taps on the butt, give a peck in the shower, etc. Put on a nite shirt and off to la la land.

I have to pee and shower or I WILL get a bladder infection. Now sometimes we know that we are going to make "love" and we don't need the plastic cover. It is weird, it is like we have SEX and we make LOVE! Both are awesome!

It is important to be sexually healthy and also to keep your body healthy. So, lay there for a bit, you are already messing in love, why not lay there a bit and relax and enjoy each other. :)

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Registered: 11-15-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 8:14pm

Yes, the water think is important. We also ALWAYS keep a bottle of water on the night stand that we share after sex. Even if it is room tempature, it is just so nice to have that there. If we forget, one of us offers to go down and get a bottle. We share this while we lay there before our shower!

GREAT POINT! I don't like to cuddle after sex - too hot, sticky, etc. however we do lay there with legs over legs, arms etc., compliment each other. Tell each other what you liked. Tell each other what maybe next time you would like....

I had a hard time with that....I'm learning to talk..... tell them what you want... what feels good, it is almost like talking dirty, without the nasty dirty talk.....

remember, only 5 minutes or so..... no longer..... sometimes he will say something and I won't respond... just listen and kiss his cheek.... to let him know I heard him.....

:)