Maintaining Long Distance Relationships

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Maintaining Long Distance Relationships
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 5:01am
Are you now or have you ever been in a LDR -- long distance relationship?

How long did it go on for?

Is it or was it with your current partner?

How often did you see one another?

Did you manage to connect sexually during the period of time you were apart?

When you were once again together, how quickly did you leap into bed?

Anything you'd recommend to people who are in a LDR now?

Do you have anything else to say about being in a LDR?






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Registered: 05-11-2003
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 10:11am
My DH and I started dating the fall of 1990 when I was a junior and he was a sophomore (college). So, during that summer after the school year we were apart. When classes were over I went to his parent's place for a week on Long Island, and he proposed there. I went home and we weren't able to visit each other. I had suspected he hooked up with a girl from our school who lived around there but he denied it. For reasons I will never quite understand, he admitted he had been sleeping with her back then on our 10th anniversary. Thanks!! What a dork. Anyway, it was difficult for us to be apart, even for just 3 months. I don't know how people manage to carry on a LDR long term. It must be hard not to be able to have daily contact in person. When we did get back together there was a kind of awkwardness between us for a few days simply because we had been living separate lives. That must be really hard if it's been months and months. Of course, we didn't have cell phones or the internet so it wasn't easy or cheap to stay in touch.
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 10:13am

Are you now or have you ever been in a LDR -- long distance relationship? Yes I was ... started almost 18 years ago ...

How long did it go on for? about 9 months ... then we got married ...

Is it or was it with your current partner? Yes

How often did you see one another? every month or so ....

Did you manage to connect sexually during the period of time you were apart? We talked on the phone alot, but sexually we didn't do much ...

When you were once again together, how quickly did you leap into bed? if we could, it was the night after we got back together ..

Anything you'd recommend to people who are in a LDR now? If it is a chore, it probably won't last.

Do you have anything else to say about being in a LDR?

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 5:33pm
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Fri, 04-10-2009 - 3:54pm
Are you now or have you ever been in a LDR -- long distance relationship?

Yes twice, actually more often then that but only twice that it was over a month.
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sat, 04-11-2009 - 4:10pm
Are you now or have you ever been in a LDR -- long distance relationship? I am now, and have been before as well.


How long did it go on for?

 


 


 


 


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Registered: 05-14-2007
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 4:23pm

Hey guys, I was really missing my wife so I wrote something for her I want to share with you guys. This is a poem I wrote for her:

I miss you

Your smile, your touch, the smell of your hair
The way you showed that, you cared
I miss watching you sleep
I miss smelling your breath, my lips upon your lips
Uniting as lovers body and soul with every kiss…
The sway of your lovely hips, the thirst for more with every thrust
I miss the nape of your neck, the place where your mounds end and starts the beginning of your thighs…
I miss your sighs of delight and that look in your eyes…
Your heart pounding next to mine as we embrace each other…
Hand in hand, chest to chest, my lips to yours…yours hips to mine
Please read between the lines
I miss the smile on your face that you must have right now
Just a little more, and hold it there…That’s what I miss

The incompleteness without you is ever present that haunts my every thought
What we have together cannot be bought
You are the women of my dreams that I have always sought
When I am not with you, I am not living; I am merely existing until I hold you again.
In my arms is where you belong
I truly, deeply miss you
I miss you endlessly, passionately, desperately, dearly, clearly
I miss you in ways I cannot write or describe with mere words
I miss you

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Registered: 04-21-2007
Sun, 04-26-2009 - 3:21am
Are you now or have you ever been in a LDR -- long distance relationship?

Yes...and now for the moment.


How long did it go on for?
Well when we first started dating we were apart for 6 months (he's in the Air Force) so we would maybe get to see each other once a month. In 2008, he deployed for 4 months overseas...now he's at Tech School for 4 months.


Is it or was it with your current partner?
Yep...with my hubby.


How often did you see one another?
None for the deployment. Now he's in CA which is only a 5 hour drive from home so I try to go down and visit at least once a month.


Did you manage to connect sexually during the period of time you were apart?
For the initial 6 months we were apart yes, instant messenger, text messages and phone calls helped when we couldn't see each other. When he was deployed he didn't have internet access until the last two weeks he was there so not really. I did however have some professional Boudoir pics made for him and sent them over (yes...I risked customs!) he was VERY appreciative. Now we talk everyday and usually IM and text. It's a lot easier when he's stateside.


When you were once again together, how quickly did you leap into bed?
As soon as we could occupy the kids!!!


Anything you'd recommend to people who are in a LDR now?
You've got to keep it interesting. Don't let the fire burn out just because you can't physically touch them. Toys help too!


Do you have anything else to say about being in a LDR?
Well...when you're a military wife you sort of adjust to being in them. That doesn't mean they don't suck any less...it just means you have to try harder.

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Stacy...married to my best friend Julian on 12/15/200