My husband doesn't believe that I love him.

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My husband doesn't believe that I love him.
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Tue, 03-06-2012 - 3:44pm

I've been married to my husband for 8 years and we have a 4 year old and a 14 month old.

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Tue, 04-03-2012 - 3:42pm

No one can honestly answer that question. You have to decide if you're willing to take that risk.



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Tue, 04-03-2012 - 6:39am

You're right and I appreciate the thought. I mentally have not been able to cross that bridge yet. I would love to have more sex with someone but in reality is that someone really out there?

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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 7:29pm
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Like looking into a mirror, except I learned to live with it and have stuck around for 25 years. The kids adore their Mom and she is involved 110% in their lives 11 months a year and on the 12 month she rests. I am not part of the picture, six or seven times a week? hell I would be satisfied to get laid one more time before I die. Why do I stick around? Probably an emotional and soulful one. I signed up for better or worst. So I am stickin around no matter what. She seems to be at her best when being a full time mom and who am I to take that away from her. I don't know what to say to husbands who want more because I am one of them. However I have children and with children life changes and I take the blessings for what they are, an occasional I love you or a gift would be nice but I don't hope anymore. Life can be so short so as a participant a visitor or a face in a crowd I appreciate the hard work of all mothers. If mothers could have maybe three minutes to say Happy Fathers Day that would be nice too.

Well there are may ways to interpret for better or worse.

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 12:53pm
I totally agree with amante....he is right!

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 1:37am

"This is causing a lot of friction to the point where he declares that he has no choice but to seek love and sex elsewhere while we argue."

I haven't read the other replies, but I don't think "several times a week" is

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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 11:48am

I just thought of something else I'd like to know. You have two young children, you work part-time. Who does the laundry, the grocery shopping, cleaning the house, cooking, cleaning up after ards, gets the children ready for bed, etc?



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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 11:46am

Thank you for voicing that. I do appreciate it. It does seem to be like she is being told either give him sex all the time or he's going to leave. It's like no one seems to care that may be there is some sort of a problem. I just hope she wasn't scared away.



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Mon, 03-12-2012 - 10:37am

Sky, I might not take the doom and gloom of some of the responses as a portent to the end of your marriage. This is a problem like anything, and it can be solved by talking about it. If all the man needs to be happy is to be "serviced" regularly, that isn't much of a relationship. It sounds like your DH is a good father and husband, and is probably willing to understand what is going on with you and work on it. I really do suggest trying to find a good counselor.

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Mon, 03-12-2012 - 8:23am
If she was like that earlier in the relationship, why did you marry her? You ought to know that most people do not change as time goes on.



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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 12:20am
You have received some excellent replies. I can tell younthat this was the beginning of the end of my marriage and had I known she would never change I would have left earlier. I know this sounds harsh but I did not sign up to be miserable. Your description of your husband sounds just how I felt through most of my thirties. If you do not find some sort of compromise you will probably be a single mom soon.

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