My Wednesday night

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My Wednesday night
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Thu, 09-08-2011 - 3:30pm
I have never posted on this particular board but I have posted on similar boards on iVillage a while back.
Anyway, DH and I have been together for almost 8 years, married less than 2 and have a 15 month old son. We've always had an explosive sex life - when we do it, it's amazing. Back in the day, we were like rabbits - adventurous rabbits. Since having the baby though we've been in a bit of a slump - in the sense that we do it much less (mostly because I'm so tired at the end of the day).
Anyway, I stopped by this board on Tuesday and it reminded me of all the things we used to do. On the way home, we made a sex pact - sex at least 4 nights/week.
All of yesterday, I was worked up while at work. Got home, got the baby into bed (earlier than usual at 8:30) and what happened? DH was "tired" and wanted to sleep. I asked him if we were going to get it on and he said "in a little while" in his groggy voice. Ugh! Anyway, I sat for a little bit (fuming), tried to take care of business myself (not the same so I didn't bother), took a shower then came back - still sleeping.
Then I couldn't take it anymore (I couldn't just go to sleep without getting some relief). I climbed in bed and said, "you need to get your ass up and F your wife" and proceeded to wake him up properly with a BJ.
Well, I must say he rose to the occasion and we took a tour of the appartment. It was AMAZING. We ended the tour in the kitchen right in front of the open window. A few minutes after we finished someone walked by the window lol.
Anyway, how do the rest of you with children deal with fitting sex into your day?

P.S.: thanks for reminding me if all the things we did "back in the day" (not so long ago).
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Thu, 09-08-2011 - 5:48pm
That's wonderful, sometime you have to take control if you want something!

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Registered: 06-07-2006
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 5:59pm
I agree (I love being in control). He seemed a little surprised - he had this smirk on his face. He definitely got the message though.
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Registered: 08-15-2011
Fri, 09-09-2011 - 6:01am
I'd love to do something lime that for my husband but I Don't think he'd play along, he days I pressure him for sex as well but I don't and we only have it about once a month!
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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 9:36am
Well, I guess the difference is that we used to have a LOT of sex before we had the baby - then the stress of everything that comes with a baby hit (plus we both work outside the home). Before we made the pact we had sex about once or twice a week (give or take).
The reason I decided that I was willing to go as far as "taking it" is because he's always saying he's never too tired for sex, so him being tired should not have been an excuse.
You could always try it with your husband. I think sometimes the hardest thing to do is decide to have sex when you're tired, but once you get started, it won't be regretted - given it's good sex.
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Registered: 08-15-2011
Fri, 09-09-2011 - 2:27pm
We have a 9 month old and even after doing all that I do in a day I never say I'm too tired for sex and whenever he wants it he gets it.
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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 2:47pm
I just read and replied to your post not too long ago. Maybe he takes you for granted or he really is having some other issues that he's not discussing with you. Either way, you need to talk to him calmly about how you feel and he should love you enough to listen to you and see what can be changed.
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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 7:16am

The Mr. gets in from work at about 4am, and I have to be up by 6am to get myself and DSD ready for school.

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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 9:58am
Wow, that sounds like a short window of opportunity.
DH and I wake up at about 5:00am to get ready for work, get home about 7:00pm and we're usually done with what we have to do around the house by midnight. He tends to be away at least one day over the weekend. It's tiring but we're trying to fit more sex in there. I need the loving to stay sane.
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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 11:10pm
Well, I do get a tradeoff in the summer. We put her in day camp, to keep active and not get bored sitting around the house. There's also not a whole lot of kids her age in our neighborhood. After I drop her off and run some errands, I can come home and crawl back into bed with him until it's time to pick her up.
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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 10:34am
Oh that sounds wonderful. I can't wait for my DS to be a bit older and more self-sufficient. We haven't had a second together without him. We need a date night or something.