Need Advice!!!!!!!! Is She Cheating???? AGAIN??????????????

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Need Advice!!!!!!!! Is She Cheating???? AGAIN??????????????
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Sat, 11-26-2011 - 8:25pm

I need some advice, and real quick!

Background

- been married 26+years

- I have been faithful throughout the entire marriage

- she had an affair, beginning 3 months after our wedding

- not sure how long it went on, a couple of months for sure

- ended and she confessed

- sat idle for 25 years

- it has been a thorn in my side since, never dealt with it and to be honest, I threw it in her face until recently

- she went on a business trip 1200 miles away which she has been for nearly 15 years

- she went to a party without me, with her friends

- her friends consist of a couple I know, and at least 2-3 men I don't know - relatives of the couple I know

- came home from the trip with pictures on the camera

- some pictures showed men sitting beside her with their arm around her - not lose, a tight hand on shoulder pic

- I caught a glimpse at the photos at the airport when I picked her up late

- Morning I grabbed the camera and looked while she slept

- I saved a couple pics to my hard drive

- Later that evening when she shared her photos, some were deleted and hidden from me!

- we addressed it and I told her how it made me feel

- she admitted she screwed up - heard that one before

- these guys (friends of the couple) now text here on a regular basis

- I feel jealous and a little afraid of a repeat of the past

My question, is it happening again?????????????????????

Please help me, I am falling apart!!!!!!

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Registered: 10-08-2003

UPDATE!

Not 100% sure where things are!

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Registered: 10-20-1999

I think you might want to check out these other boards for more help...

memeu siggy 4-08

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Registered: 08-01-2006

Have you talked to her about what you saw/found?



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Registered: 10-08-2003

Thanks for all the advice and after this last question, my counsellor will take it on.

These texts back and forth, i seen one tonight, it's rare I see more than a 2 liner becuase she deletes everything as she reads it.

It was her telling him good night and the next line was"I hope you're still smiling!" it was all her, no response from him

Are things said normally between a married woman and a single guy??

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Registered: 08-25-2010

Yes, I stayed!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2003

Hey Roberto!

You mean you remember those??

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Registered: 05-23-2011

Wow.

Is this the same relay who wrote these really hot stories on here years ago?

-Roberto

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Registered: 06-10-2009

If she cheated so soon after your wedding, then you have no idea if she continued after you found out.

I too, had a lousey childhood which made it necessary for me to work six hours a day, seven days a week

at the age of twelve. The thoughts of being alone caused me to make poor choices in so far as

my relationship with the first woman who showed an interest in me. Twenty years later, I found out that her only real interest in me was finacial assistence. I've lived "alone" for the last three years and I find it to be exhillerating.

I do now date women, but make it clear that alothough I'm willing to foot the bill, it won't be a permanent situation.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
relay66 wrote:

I can be honest here and say that I have tried, I've been in counselling and support groups.



28999825.jpg picture by nhgal2006

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Registered: 08-01-2006
relay66 wrote:

Thanks for the response!

Yes, I stayed!



28999825.jpg picture by nhgal2006

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