Need Some Ideas to Get Me in the Mood...

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Need Some Ideas to Get Me in the Mood...
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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:27am

HELP! HELP! HELP!


The excitement is gone from my sex life with DH and I dont know how to get it back.

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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 1:37pm

There are so many things that DH does that get me in the mood, but the one in particular is courting me.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 3:26pm

Well off...your TTC, that makes sex sex not loving making....you have to have sex to TTC sooo


change the way you think...go back to 'making love' for making love not for TTC,

memeblue

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 3:35pm

Meme has some great advice!


Other things you can do - wear sexy underwear. I know it seems silly, but no matter what you have on top, if you have that old bra with the loose threads and those 6 year old Vickie's secret cotton specials on - it's harder to feel that sexy versus a nice matching lace bra and panty set. Buy yourself some new lingerie.


You can also write down, say ten things that turn you on, on little cards. Then, every time you have sex, he has to pick one and do it before you can have intercourse.


And you can always go the mind-f route - tell him you want the time the baby is concevied to be memorable - not some whan-bam-thank-you-ma'am session.

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Sat, 10-01-2005 - 9:28pm

I definitely worded my post wrong.

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:26am
Well, my first question then is - you don't have a sex drive, but you pleasure yourself - so what happens when you get in the mood to pleasure yourself?
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Registered: 09-27-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 7:03pm

Hi! I recommend that you and your sweetheart set the mood for romance. Create a setting free of interruptions(no tv, no phone, etc.) Play some romantic music if you like. Creating the mood takes a little time, but it's well worth it. Plan the evening as a date night, but don't go anywhere. This sounds funny but it works: gaze deeply into each others eyes. The long stare will either make you laugh together(promoting intimacy) or it will raise your desire as you start to think about how sexy each other's eyes are. A win-win situation.
I feel also that you should tell him how you feel. You're not alone in feeling the need to be warmed up to having sex. Women in general need much more time than a man to get in the mood. Talk to him, tell him that you need foreplay in order for the experience to by mutually enjoyable. Try to invoke all of your senses(sight, taste, touch, smell, hear) next time you play around, the ultimate intimate experience involves all of the senses.
Hope that helps.

Donna Hall
Independent Passion Consultant
www.gottahavepassion.com