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Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:05pm

Ok I have never done anything like this

my husband and i have been married for 7 years we have four children.(and want more lol)
we have no problem finding the time for love making . about every other day . I am just looking for ways to spice it up a bit . nothing to off the wall . but we have an open mind we both grew up very old fashion and are just trying to get over it . we both are very young still in our 20s we got married right out of high school. two things wich we both will not do is watch porn or invite someone eles into our bed. with that in mind anyone have any sugestions :)
thanks everyone
Amanda

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In reply to: blueeyes21a
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:15pm
There's lots of things you can do to spice it up. You could try sexy lingerie, role playing, light bondage (tie each other up, nothing wild), sex toys, anal play, anal sex. These are just a few, it really depends on what you do now (which has become routine)and how comfortable you are trying new things.
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Registered: 01-11-2006
In reply to: blueeyes21a
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:17pm
Welcome! I guess I kinda am a newbie here too. I posted something 3 weeks ago and everyone was so helpful that I kept coming back! As for your question, you opened a can of worms. That was my original 1st question here. LOL There are many things...if your just getting started trying new things....how about a cute lil' nightie, wear it to bed and see what he does. It kinda depends where you guys are before we can help you to the next level.Have you tried new positions...(69). Have you either one partaked in oral? Let us know how far you have went or tell us the naughtiest thing you guys have done and maybe a few of us can guide you farther! Its very hard to want to expand what is in your closet. My previous relationships, I coulda been called a lil' saint, I been married 8 months and its like some animal unleased out of me. We will NOT do the whole bondage thing at this point, but I am currently trying and expierencing new things! Its a whole new world girlfriend! Every person in this world wants to be a little bit of a rebel and its ok too. If its not one of the 10 commandments, your future is yours to play with babes! Good Luck and lets us know!

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In reply to: blueeyes21a
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:40pm

Okay, I just gotta reply b/c you put newbie!!!LOL

Anyway, spicing it up! I'm all for it! So, I'll mention the oral thing too - one of my favorites, and his too. Also, take the sex on the road, so to speak - take it out of the bedroom every so often! A quickie in the bathroom, a roll on the couch, table or whatever - heck take it to your minivan, if you've got one!LOL

It really depends on your level of comfort as to what you are willing to try. Where someone may enjoy anal, you may not feel comfortable with that type of spice!

 

 

 

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In reply to: blueeyes21a
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:46pm
well we have tried a few things and yes i do have a few sexy teddies . getting him to want to have sex is NOT the problem i cant keep him off of me . i just would like to find a way to make it better . im not into toys so that is kindof out . we have had sex in diferent places in our house and out side the house just nver in public wich we would not do lol as we live in a small town .
we have tried diferent positions and such we have been messing around with oral sex. wich he seems to really like . i guess i am just looking for that one secret to sex that will really work for us .
amanda
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Registered: 01-11-2006
In reply to: blueeyes21a
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:53pm

GIRLFRIEND UNLEASH THE ANIMAL INSIDE YOU!

All the things you say you won't do, or haven't done...shock the crap outta him and do 1 of the things he knows your not gonna do! Only you and him will know and its not gonna make you a "slutty wife". I was SOoooooooooooooooooooooooo in your boat and finally I "talked" myself into it. Wanna know something crazy, buy a playgirl or a hustler. Tell the convience store guy your going to a bachelorette party or slipping it in hubby's lunch as a gag gift ( i was scared just to do that). When he is at work....look at it, see the other women, read the articles, I found one in his trunk that was one of his buddies from work and I looked at it, it made me feel like a whole new sexual person. Thats when I began finding new ideas and wanting to explore with a little more than my normal things! Tell yourself its okay and go out on a limb just once. I promise you will not dissapoint him!

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In reply to: blueeyes21a
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 6:22pm

I agree. Try taking yourself out of your comfort zone just once and do something he knows you don't want to do and surprise him with it. He'll know straight away that you are doing this for him, and it will turn him on immensely.

Some other ideas:

Plan a night that will be all about the two of you. Meet him at the door in some new lingerie he's never seen, when he comes home from work one night. Don't say anything, just take his hand and lead him to the couch, sit him down, straddle him and give him a really passionate kiss. Go from there.

Do a striptease. He isn't allowed to touch you until you are ready. Combine it with a lap dance.

Give him an all over body massage in some sexy lingerie (or nothing!), and massage tantalisingly close to his sensitive spots. "Accidentally" brush over them from time to time.

Ask him about his fantasies and what really gets him going, if there are any that are doable (in your mind), act it out. Tell him your fantasies.

Get a kama sutra book and aim to try a new position at least once a month.

Nonchalantly play with him one night while watching a movie. If he says anything, tease him by saying in a serious voice that you don't know what he's talking about.

Get in the shower together, make him wash yourself down, pay particular to your breasts and "down there". Then wash him and give him particular attention in the right areas. Then choose whether to go down on him or make him go down on you.

Good luck