No sex due to medical problems

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
No sex due to medical problems
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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 9:25am
Looking for some insight. I injured my back 2 years ago. My husband is very worried that us having sex could hurt my back even more. I have bone fragments in 2 main nerves and fractured disks also. I understand that he is concerned with my health, but I am just as worried about our marriage suffering from my condition. You know the old saying.."If they can't get it at home..." I feel guilty that my injury has halted our love life. I feel guilty,lonely, and frustrated. It could be a year or so before my back gets fixed, if at all! How do I keep my marriage alive when my husband is afraid of even hugging me and causing me pain? Is it fair for him to suffer just because I cannot perform in the bedroom right now? I am afraid that when I do get better that we will have grown so far apart from each other that we won't be able to rekindle our romance.
Has anyone gone through anything similar? Please help!
I'm deeply in love with my husband! He is my whole world and I am afraid of losing the one true love of my life!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:46am
Welcome Tilted!

Well, without complete knowledge of your physical limitations, its hard to say. Are there other things you can do besides intercourse, like oral sex or hand jobs? You could masturbate together. Is every position out? Are some better, like doggie? Have you brought your husband with you to your doctor, and specifically asked about sex?