PORN

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Sat, 08-14-2010 - 10:27am

Hey All,


Would like some advice. I am 27 years old and have been married for 6 years. We recently seperated for about 6 months and we have been back together for 2 now. He LOVES sex...as do i...but I am little more discreet about it. I am trying to "open" to new horizons without feel uncomfortable.

Last night he surprised me with a vibrator..which I LOVED. And he also bought a DVD. I enjoy porn....by myself. I know he watches it by himself as well. I think where my problem is....is that he will be more turned on by the DVD's than me. Make sense?

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Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: gnat2325
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 4:50am
I wouldn't worry about that. We always begin our sex activities by watching a porn DVD while we masturbate together. We fantasize together, but neither of us would substitute porn actors/actresses for each other. Just enjoy it with him. We seldom watch alone.
Oldkinky
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In reply to: gnat2325
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 6:51pm

Porn can be a good thing to "add" into the mix. Why not try only using it a few times and not all the time.


BUT you need to remember me "married" you and he "loves" you....not what it he is watching! it only helps to "enjoy" you!


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Registered: 04-10-2010
In reply to: gnat2325
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 10:02pm

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Registered: 06-14-2002
In reply to: gnat2325
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 10:55am
I would be cautious about porn. If you are open and willing to try new things then it may not be an issue. It may also cause unrealistic expectations about sex. BTW I am a man.
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Registered: 09-14-2007
In reply to: gnat2325
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 3:19pm

Of course there are those who are "addicted" to porn...I'm not refering to that.

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Registered: 08-21-2007
In reply to: gnat2325
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 3:23pm

We enjoy porn together, I know my DH enjoys watching it when i am not around and sometimes i enjoy watching it without DH.

 

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Registered: 10-14-2009
In reply to: gnat2325
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 11:50am
Hmmm. My wife uses her mouth on me as I watch porn. I reallly appreciate it. Does this make me even badder?
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Registered: 08-27-2010
In reply to: gnat2325
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 6:53pm

everyone gets different things out of adult material. Maybe you should have a talk about what he expects out of it, does he expect you to do what the women do (is he expecting it to train you). Ask him if he thinks if that what sex is really about. Use it for a chance to open communication.

For a lot of men its a chance to see a variety of women and to see them in ways they dont normally get to see them. When you are up close and helping a woman have an orgasm it is a different view than on a video. Seeing a vagina around the penis is a view you dont normally get, etc

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Registered: 02-06-2007
In reply to: gnat2325
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 11:12am

My wife and I occassionally watch it together.

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Registered: 08-21-2007
In reply to: gnat2325
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 2:42pm
"It's simply a tool to increase arousal"

 

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